My dad thought the t slur wasn’t considered a slur but that hermaphrodite was the slur for trans ppl. I believe my father genuinely believed this bc I have had to educate him on multiple different lgbtq things. Before me a lot of his knowledge was based on harmful stereotypes about the queer community. So if your dad is similar to my dad I can definitely see it being a possibility. I would just try to make it a learning moment and if it happens again then it is definitely more suspicious

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I hear car dudes say it when referring to transmissions but they know what theyre doing

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Most everyone I know already knows it’s a slur but were unsure about other terms, like “transvestite”, and also “hermaphrodite” vs Intersex, so I’ve had to educate about those more often than the mentioned T slur.

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it’s never been anything but a slur

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my 60yr old dad has worked on cars since before he got one and has been using it as a term for the transmission and literally did not know until i was like 16 and told him, he tries not to use it now but it fr was just the slang for that so i correct him but don’t hold it against him when he slips up

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I think it depends on how he acts going forward. If he seems genuinely apologetic and learned from his mistake then yeah, but if the behavior continues it was probably intentional.

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i've seen people say it cause they know it's used derogatorily but not that people see it as a slur. i think it depends on how he was saying it/context entirely.

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