LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | Is it normal to feel upset by your fwb saying that if he had a vagina he’d “let all the homies hit”? He said it in between us having sex multiple times and it made me feel hurt like I’m just the easy option for sex or something.

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LGBTQIA+ 1d

Is it normal to feel upset by your fwb saying that if he had a vagina he’d “let all the homies hit”? He said it in between us having sex multiple times and it made me feel hurt like I’m just the easy option for sex or something.

Anonymous 1d

I would just talk with him about it, or ask him to stop. Maybe he’s working out some stuff, but he probably won’t notice the impact until you say something

Anonymous 1d

maybe i’m dumb but if you’re not like that it seems like he’s insinuating the opposite about you?

Anonymous

#1 1d

I definitely think I want to talk to him but I don’t want to make him feel bad. He is a really caring guy and I don’t think he meant anything bad when he said that. I think he just had no filter in that moment but it doesn’t change the hurt I’m feeling

Anonymous

#2 1d

Wait wdym

Anonymous

OP 1d

i’m not sure if you’re selective with your sexual partners but if you are it sounds like he’s saying he’d be the opposite? like you being selective vs him being easy with his friends

Anonymous

#2 1d

or maybe he wasn’t even trying to imply anything about you but timing made it seem that way. idk just theorizing

Anonymous

#2 1d

I definitely do think we’re the opposite. I’m demisexual and it takes a lot for me to want to have sex with someone. I know he isn’t demi but he’s expressed that he usually only cares about his own pleasure during sex but he said with me he wants to pleasure me and that is his focus. So idk I guess that made me feel special

Anonymous

OP 1d

with that context it seems he wasn’t talking about you but had horrible timing lol i’d still talk to him about it bc he can’t know it made you upset unless you tell him