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LGBTQIA+ 6w
posting this here too bc yall seem more active than this community so aromantics hmu 😭
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Anonymous 6w

Everyone’s experiences are different , but for me, I didn’t know I was aro until my Sophmore year of high school. As a kid, I wanted a bf, cause thats what all the books and movies I watched showed. My friend also would talk about her crushes a lot, so I felt like I needed one too. As a kid there we’re a couple kids I thought I liked, but looking back, I don’t think it was romantic attraction, when I was 12, a kid asked if I wanted to date them, and I realized I didn’t actually want a boyfriend.

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Anonymous 6w

Being aro and/or ace doesn’t really depend on “wanting” a relationship. I know that wasn’t very clear in my posts, lol. But it solely focuses on if you feel the attraction or not. Having a relationship is a personal preference. Many aro/ace people have relationships and many Alli people choose not to have them. So your preference on relationships doesn’t dictate your sexuality. It can be a sign, but it doesn’t depend on it.

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

Ever since then, I wanted nothing to do with relationships. I liked brave because Merida didn’t fall in love with anyone, I googled what phobia makes you afraid to fall in love, I told my mom I wanted to be an old maid after I found out what an old maid was. My dad had a rule that I wasn’t allowed to have a boyfriend until after college, and it was my favorite rule ever. I got sick of all the love songs on the radio, and the idea of sex always repulsed me

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

like, 9 times outta 10 all i want is good friends who love and care for me and actually make time for me and are there for me and vice versa , but i also like that intimacy aspect of relationships , i need that physical touch , and even a deep connection with someone i jus don’t always want to be held down by a relationship yk? and SOMEtimes i can feel this romantic attraction , but others , i don’t ? i think?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

idk man , explaining this shit is so hard 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

I found out what aro and ace was during quarantine, but I didn’t start questioning if I was Ace until my freshman year. I didn’t think I was aro because of the “crushes” I thought I had when I was in elementary school. Indidbt really want any sort of relationship, and I didn’t feel romantically for anyone. The aro realization hit me when I was coming out to my mom the first time.

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

Oops sorry I meant to reply to the other thread-

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

Oh wait it’s the same thread

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

lol ya we jus both talkin away

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

However, what you said about sometimes feeling romantic attraction and sometimes not sounds like gray aro/ace or Demi aro/ace.

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

that’s what a friend of mine said yah

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

I hope this helped!

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

a little yah

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

That’s good! Do you have any other questions?

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Anonymous replying to -> keybladeofthelostcities 6w

i don’t think so 🙂‍↕️ thank you!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Ofc!

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