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I am a lesbian but I find gay sex attractive and it turns me on what the hell is wrong with me???? HELP

#identitycrisis

Anonymous 2w

This isn’t an identity issue. It’s difficult to visualize sexuality between women, because there is a lot of internal/hidden behavior. Male on male sex allows for externalization (visual) while still having a gay vibe. Porn isn’t a litmus test of your sexuality any more than role play is. Think of all of the role play you would willingly engage in. Do you want those real-life scenarios? Of course not. It’s the same with porn. It means nothing.

Anonymous 2w

well this might be dependent on the context and what specifically is turning you on bc I'm asexual but I've been turned on by porn purely due to bdsm stuff and not the physical appearance of the ppl doing that stuff, if that makes sense

Anonymous 2w

this was me and it turned out i was actually a gay trans man 🫣

Anonymous 2w

Is there any possibility you might be bi? 🤷 Nothing wrong with it if you are.

Anonymous 2w

have you tried exploring your gender? i used to feel like this but it turned out i was a pan trans guy

Anonymous 2w

something about it being gay just makes it work for some people. idk i know a bunch of lesbians who love yaoi but could never date or have sex with a man bc the gender dynamics make it weird

Anonymous 2w

yoai 🔥🔥🗣️

Anonymous

#6 2w

part of it is also an escapism fantasy of what it would be like to be gay without experiencing misogyny for some folks

Anonymous

#5 2w

I used to question my gender all the time i would date a gay man as a lesbian which I don’t understand but for me it’s the masculine dominant side of it like when I watch i feel as though im the guy some days i feel like i have a penis some days I don’t

Anonymous

#3 2w

The dominant roles sometimes I feel as though i have the anatomy of a male if that makes sense

Anonymous

#4 2w

But I like women too i would also date someone who was transitioning but for me it would only be ftm i don’t quite understand it. Like drag turns me on but the man it’s self doesn’t. I hope I didn’t say anything wrong I’m new to all this.

Anonymous

#7 2w

Now if you graduated from getting off on gay porn to…wishing you had a penis every day…not wanting to identify with your vagina…wanting women to constantly dress up like dudes in as convincing a display as possible…sneaking off to gay bars and trying to pickup a dude…THEN we might start talking about “identity issues”.

Anonymous

#7 2w

Everything you’ve said tells me you like women. You are an animal that can be aroused by unrefined stimuli, like every other animal. Everything you like leans feminine: Drag Gay men Women This is perfectly normal for you, as a lesbian. Social definitions imply this shouldn’t happen, because our brains like to fit things in neat little categories. That’s a harmful side effect of labels: guilt & confusion Let it go and enjoy it. You only need to address things that aren’t working for you.

Anonymous

OP 2w

no you havent said anything bad dont worry 🫶 i agree with #7. sometimes labels help and sometimes they make things worse. you dont NEED to label your identity if nothing fits. like as an example i do tell people that im gay, but i actually do occasionally find myself attracted to certain women, both cis and trans. sexuality is complex and doesnt always fit perfectly into language.

Anonymous

#2 2w

What does that mean