LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | My crush just suggested hooking up. First of all I'm excited but also not sure it's a good idea, bc I think he just wants to blow his load while I want intimacy and an emotional connection. I still have strong feelings too. Bad idea?

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My crush just suggested hooking up. First of all I'm excited but also not sure it's a good idea, bc I think he just wants to blow his load while I want intimacy and an emotional connection. I still have strong feelings too. Bad idea?

Anonymous 5w

Sounds like a bad idea to me. Sex will just make your feelings deeper, which sucks if he doesn’t feel the same

Anonymous 5w

Sometimes bad ideas give you great stories and the best time of your life but I would try to figure out how invested they are compared to you and try to understand where everyone is at

Anonymous 5w

so not to give you false hope but i did this in july and it resulted in a relationship by october, which i am very happy in. sex will 100% make your feelings deeper, dont try to convince yourself otherwise. if you decide to do it, make sure that yall are VERY communicative. if you think something has changed (in my case, he initially told me he only wanted something casual with no strings attached, but eventually it was clear to me that his sentiment had changed) you have to talk abt it.

Anonymous 5w

bad idea, we dated for only a month and that’s because we agreed beforehand that we’d try to date later on

Anonymous

#3 5w

there was a period for us during our fwb stage where i secretly had strong feelings for him while he had none for me. it was painful and definitely not healthy for me, even though it ended up working out. i got through that period by kind of detaching from my feelings and focusing on the present—i was having fun, even if the “benefits” part of fwb ended i still had a good experience, i was having needs met and getting closer to a good friend, etc.