this is common with trans women who haven't fully come to terms with being trans or aren't ready to transition or come out. i knew someone once who ppl joked was a lesbian, who literally said "i'm probably trans but i don't wanna unpack that"
i swear everyone wants to be a lesbian but no one wants to date women in real life “my bf is spiritually a lesbian 🤪” I hope a comedically large piano falls on both of you