Honestly, just tell him. Idk how to get over that fear, but he might have some ideas (or he might be weird about it, unfortunately)

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I mean not really, but I’m acespec so it depends on why you don’t want it cause I was afraid of it until my partner said they didn’t care one way or the other and then I felt comfortable initiating. It depends on the reasons why you’re adverse.

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Definitely not -for queer folks especially it’s pretty common to have your first sexual experience later. Being nervous about starting sex is perfectly normal, but if your fear is very intense and unmanageable then it might help to take it very slow (or maybe even to talk to a therapist if that’s possible for you). Definitely communicate with him, but remember that there are lots of ways to have sex - if something you want to do is less scary than other things then start with that

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