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LGBTQIA+ 1d
if an ftm t4t straight aroace guy was called the f slur by his abusers can he reclaim it even if he’s straight? i’m not the person in question but it’s an argument i’m having with someone.
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Anonymous 1d

I personally don’t understand the way most of the community seemingly conflates sexual orientation with gender identity. With that, I don’t believe that being trans automatically allows you to say the f slur if you identify as straight.

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Anonymous 16h

why do some people want to say slurs SO BAD it's weird

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Anonymous 1d

i mean if a white person was called racial slurs would they be able to reclaim them? it doesn’t 100% parallel but i think the same logic can apply. it normalizes the use of the slur from someone not part of the group and not everyone is going to have the personal context of his situation (without which is just “straight guy using f slur 🤨)

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Anonymous 1d

op what is your understanding of what “straight aroace” means. in as much detail as possible.

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Anonymous 1h

Im a cis masc lesbian who has been called the t slur on multiple occasions i dont think its okay for me to go around dropping the t slur just bc i have been called it

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

and tbh like. i think that as a trans person it’s more important to respect the relevant words. people may take his actions and position within the queer community to mean that it’s actually fine for straight people to use the f slur. solidarity etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 23h

i agree! i was told that i was “dictating” what this person can say. i’m a gay man myself and everyone who says that they can say it isn’t.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 23h

that’s what they called themselves, don’t come after me for this what

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

thank you i agree

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

ok but for real, what do you think it means? What life experiences would come with it?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

What are your thoughts on lesbians saying it? They have also been degraded by the word throughout history, and they have shown extreme solidarity with gay men in times of need.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

i’m okay with lesbians saying it 💗 i love my lesbian sisters. as a gay man.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Based

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19h

probably feeling minor or infrequent attraction, or something like being demi, and what attraction does happen is heterosexual

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17h

thanks for the reply #3, but i was trying to talk to OP!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

#3 explained it perfectly. i wouldn’t understand their specific experience since im not aroace

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