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Being in online queer spaces is genuinely so annoying sometimes like why is someone trying to tell me that you can enjoy casual sex with men and still be a lesbian like you guys cannot be real
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Anonymous 1d

If she’s not attracted to men in any way, she’s still a lesbian. What she chooses to do does not change the fact that she is still not attracted to men

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Anonymous 1d

Way to completely ignore the fact that she’s NOT ATTRACTED TO MEN

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Anonymous 1d

Honestly the only thing this has showed me is that these online spaces are too full of those who are chronically online. In the real world, these conversations don’t exist thank god😭

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Anonymous 1d

this post is ironic

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Anonymous 1d

The summary of what they’re telling us is that apparently, the homophobes were correct. The only reason women become lesbians is that they haven’t had “good d”.

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Anonymous 1d

How many of you fucking diaperbags do I have to block? YOU DO NOT DICTATE SOMEONE ELSE’S IDENTITY. SHE IS STILL A LESBIAN.

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Anonymous 1d

The way people are also supporting it like what? Are we all losing the plot?

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Anonymous 23h

are u a lesbian?

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Anonymous 1d

Irl its lowkey worse, last girl ik that did this I had to cut off because she moved onto sexually assaulting them 🫩

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Anonymous 1d

and somehow it’s biphobic to say that it’s okay to be bisexual

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

And she is attracted to men btw, so Im not saying it has anything to do with whatever is going on here, experimenting can be healthy if executed right

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

Im genuinely confused how there could be any issue with what I said here, but im really hoping its just a misunderstanding and not coming from a place of rape apologia,

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

I think people might have assumed you were talking about this specific situation on yikyak, and not read your second comment or something. That’s definitely disgusting though and you shouldn’t be getting downvoted

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yeah I didn’t know what the post was in reference to at the time which is why I was talking about my irl experience and made a follow up comment after reading the context, its concerning how bad some people’s reading comprehension is on here at times, but also thanks for summarizing because theres too many comments on those other posts to comb through

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

you're right about that, my lesbian friends who quietly hooked up with a man once or twice after coming out don't have other people rejecting their sexuality.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

I just don’t get the point of even using a label then like they don’t HAVE to call themselves a lesbian. Like there’s no way bi erasure is getting this serious

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

they're lesbian in every way people are entitled to know

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

you are one of those who are chronically online m'love and you're right. when lesbians occasionally hook up with men "in the real world" people don't write paragraphs about how they're not lesbians. they just accept that sexual orientation is fluid and dynamic and move on you're criticizing the mirror hon

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Does she say she’s not attracted to men? Maybe read your own screenshot first?💀

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

recognizing someone is attractive doesn't mean you're attracted to them

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

Yes, in the comments. In that specific screenshot she says she wasn’t attracted to the man she had sex with which is more relevant to this post we’re commenting on

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

No literally

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

Clearly we are I don’t even want to argue w them I feel like I’m losing braincells

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yeah none of that is on your screenshot though. Which was my point

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

It also doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

That’s why I wrote it out. It wasn’t in that screenshot with the info I wanted to share. Now you know she’s not attracted to men, so what’s the argument?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

How is someone who’s not attracted to men not a lesbian?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Show where she said that she wasn’t attracted to the man she had sex with. Also “what’s the argument”? You can’t honestly be that passionate about another person’s sex life. My stance has not changed. Lesbians do not “want to have sex with men”. I have no clue why exactly yall are trying to erase bisexuality but okay. If she was experimenting, that’s a completely different thing. But yall are full on arguing that lesbians just casually want to fuck men. Absolutely tf not

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

It is okay to be bisexual. What’s not okay to to try and claim someone is bisexual when they’re not.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 23h

she had "good d" and is still a lesbian, what now?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 23h

Im asking earnestly: how can enjoy sex with a man and choose to have sex with them and be a lesbian? In my view, those two things seem mutually exclusive from one another but im happy to discuss earnestly

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 23h

lots of lesbians have had sex with a man at some point for whatever reasons, and not all of those experiences have been unpleasant

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 22h

I understand that part, i have had sex with a man as a lesbian but that was before i had realized i was a lesbian. But the willful choice to have sex with a man after seemingly coming to terms with ones lesbianism is throwing me off

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 22h

I think it's safe to say it's an outlier kind of experience for lesbians and in that OP's life

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 22h

I guess that makes sense, ive certainly known people to test the waters of their already accepted sexuality and then realize they were more comfortable where they originally identified

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 18h

Yes

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