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LGBTQIA+ 4w
I hate the way people try and make everything a binary. Like if ur nonbinary now they’re asking “well are you afab or amab. Masc or fem”
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Anonymous 3w

Truly. Asking someone if they’re afab or amab is kind of creepy and asking if they’re masc or fem is needlessly constricting. If an nb person has labels they want you to know they’ll tell you

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Anonymous 4w

not trying to sound ignorant, but do you mind further explaining how this comes off as rude? i don’t see anything wrong w asking a nonbinary person those questions so i just wanna know why

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Anonymous 3w

Im nb and I always pull out the AFAB just so that I can recontextualize my experience but lowkey it hurts when people are like yes yes yes. Oh ur AFAB?? She her she her?? Like bro I’m still nonbinary I just am trying to give context since I've lived a life with boobs and sometimes saying "I’m AFAB" helps provide context for my experience. I literally have no clue why else it would be relevant ever

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Just because to me the whole point of me identifying as nonbinary is that I am not a man or woman, so someone asking my sex at birth seems as if it’s a way to place me in a binary of “boy non-binary/girl nonbinary.” Same with masc or fem. It’s an attempt to make my gender into something they understand easier, to create a binary out of something not binary

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

ohh, i gotcha. honestly that makes a lot of sense, dk why that hasn’t clicked for me before lol. i doubt anyone meant any harm by it, but sorry ppl have made you feel that way. thank you for educating me🙏

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

I don’t think it comes from a place of harm, and honestly it’s not their fault that the human brain likes categories and wants people to fit into those categories, it’s just frustrating for me as I’ve transcended those categories in a way

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

you don’t see what’s wrong with walking up to someone and saying “hey what’s in your pants? btw i’m also going judge you and make assumptions about you based on that”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

initially, no. the questions didn’t come off to me like that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

also just wanted to add that i’m a trans guy and i get similar questions like that which is why i didn’t see anything wrong by it. op’s explanation makes me see it in a different light now tho, they are odd questions to ask

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I should preface when I say I mention being AFAB it's usually when I’m talking to cis men and trying to explain shit like explaining AFAB biology shit or things more prevalent in "women spaces" (bc I've lived in them), or explaining why afab pple or women r afraid to go home alone at night more often than not, etc, and I use the term to give credibility

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

This!! Bringing it up out of nowhere is weird asf

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