In my experience, it's usually someone I consider a very close friend that I also want to do other stuff with (ranges from kissing to more sexual stuff)

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as someone who is aroace I think it's all made up but what do I know

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Depends on the person and the relationship. Really doesnt objectively mean anything

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there’s intimacy involved in a romantic relationship that friendships don’t have

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To me it’s less about specific activities as much as it sentiments. I have friends that I can hang out with one on one but I don’t have the exact same emotional connection to them as I do my gf. Does that make sense?

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acearospec here i have trouble with the distinction too. for me it’s just when More Intense Than Usual Urges for intimacy and vulnerability come naturally. once i entered a situation where i was intimate and vulnerable with someone i wasn’t attracted to and it was nails on a chalkboard to my soul

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it's the kind of thing where there will ALWAYS be exceptions (either romantic couples who don't conform to xyz or non romantic pairs who do xyz) - generally, it's a desired closeness more than a friend (physically and emotionally), going on romantic dates, flirting, physical affection (kissing, holding hands, cuddling), and will just feel like a different relationship than a friendship (like family vs friend, etc)

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honestly if you don't think it's romance actively, it probably isn't. it may be platonic, queerplatonic, whatever else. call it whatever you want, but i think alloromanticism and allosexuality are both the kind of thing that allos just get and black stripe aros/aces just don't

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Intention. That’s the main thing. There’s a difference between being friends with someone, and CHOOSING someone to be your partner.

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I dont understand 😭😭😭

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For some reason it’s not allowing me to cross post to Aro-Ace Space but definitely check out that community! And if you look up the split attraction model that could also help explain the difference in some of those feelings

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