Sidechat logo
Download TikTok Instagram X
Sidechat icon
Join communities on Sidechat Download
LGBTQIA+ icon
LGBTQIA+ 4w
If you as a straight woman have claimed to be an ally but all of a sudden magically transform into a raging homophobe the second after finding out ur man is DL, sorry but u never were an ally 🤷
comment

14
upvote 159 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

“Raging homophobe” no, but I do think they’re allowed to be pissed that their partner was cheating and using them as a cover against their knowledge, lavender relationships are fine, just as long as all parties are aware. Cheating is cheating even if you’re closeted

upvote 72 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

the same ones that scream “ally!” and then turn around and call their ex bf the f slur lol

upvote 55 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

me watching cis people immediately jump to misgendering a terrible trans person as if gender is a privilege 🌝

upvote 34 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 4w

Sorry I’m a little behind, what does DL mean??

upvote 6 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

yep. or “evil twink” as a substitute for it lol

upvote 40 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

ofc they are allowed to be pissed and that would be justified if there was cheating. that does not excuse being homophobic. i am not referring to people being pissed at their partners for cheating. i am referring to a switch from an ally to a homopbobe as a whole which sometimes happens

upvote 68 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

down low, secretly gay or bi while living the life of a straight person

upvote 21 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Ohh ok makes sense. Ty explaining

upvote 8 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

yw!

upvote 5 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I feel like it’d be better to rephrase the original statement to where they find out their partner is bi, as opposed to DL. Bc DL specifically has a connotation that they might be actively hooking up w/ people, even if they have a monogamous partner

upvote 12 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

That still doesn’t excuse them becoming homophobic? Hating a whole group of people because one guy cheated on you is still bad

upvote 22 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #6 3w

yeah bc being homophobic to DL men rather than just being upset at them for cheating is smth that I’ve seen multiple women do. there’s no excuse for homophobia, even if they’re a bad person

upvote 19 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 3w

phew. I’m glad I don’t care about your opinion outside of hoping you grow as a person.

upvote 9 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Oh yes, I agree, being homophobic because of it isn’t an excuse but I have heard some people say that those women aren’t allowed to be upset with their partners for cheating because they (the boyfriends/husbands) “felt scared to be their true selves” which I can understand but at the same time maybe just be single, or go find a lesbian and get in a lavender relationship, dont cheat and use your partner as a cover against their knowledge

upvote 6 downvote