two things can be true, 1) people are allowed to have their own personal sexual boundaries and 2) many men do not give their female partners head due to misogynistic beliefs and a lack of concern for their partner’s pleasure. women calling out a culture that devalues their pleasure and portrays their genitals as disgusting isn’t a personal attack on any specific individual’s preferences.

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I hate seeing this and always call it out when I do Like everyone’s fine with women not liking to give head, but everyone shames men for the same thing, there’s nothing wrong with either

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and yes it is that serious when people are shaming others for a sexual preference. regardless of the reason, shaming something harmless that they can’t change is wrong. that goes doubly for shaming ace and gay guys who haven't realized yet & think there's something broken inside of them.

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i dont disagree but i do think this is a smith college problem (in other words, its a real problem but the scale of it is very small. in broader pop culture, its not acceptable for women to not want to give head and men are not actually expected to do so. forcing a guy to give you head if they dont want to is obv bad, but this isnt an epidemic. theres also a difference between being ace or saying no vs the sex equivalent of watching your partners fav movie w them even if its not your favorite)

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