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LGBTQIA+ 1d
my mom makes me feel bad about being gay. My long distance bf came to visit us and we just had this conversation about something and it lead to her admitting that us kissing made her uncomfortable because it’s not “normal” or something along those lines
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Anonymous 1d

she tries to be supportive but idk what to do or how to make her not feel uncomfortable over the fact i like dudes. I can’t tell if I should be mad or just brush it off. After all, she is religious and was born in the 60s. At least she’s being honest

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Anonymous 1d

It’s not your job to make her comfortable with who you are. She’s grown enough to either cope with it, get over it, or figure out ways to handle it. The most you can do is explain how things are now and try to make it easy to understand. Otherwise the rest of how she acts is up to her. Personal opinion, of course

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Anonymous 1d

my parents are similar, we didn’t kiss in front of them, but they were being weird about us even sitting in bed watching a movie together. Got a lot of “it’s just hard for us” and “think about what it means for your faith” and “try to see it from our perspective”. It’s good for us to be understanding of them, they don’t have the same experience, but remember that you aren’t doing anything wrong by being yourself or loving someone.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

yeah i know, just makes me wish there were something i could do or say to make her not feel that way. I don’t want her uncomfortable with who i love for all of my life yk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I completely get it. That’s how some members of my family are. Sometimes you can find a way to get them to understand, others you can’t. In my instance, I learned I was wasting effort on trying to get them to accept me when I could be putting that effort elsewhere. Obviously, I don’t know your mom. Maybe she can understand eventually. I hope for the best to happen in your situation, OP

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

My mom never pushes the religious aspect against me, but I know it bothers her. I guess it just frustrates me cause im not really religious like she is. I grew up religious tho and I think that really impacted how I feel about coming out to people. I am subconsciously worried of being judged

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