ellie on Sidechat | historically it was used towards queer women as well (just not as frequently) . there's an episode of making gay history that goes into details of historical experiences of queer women. at least get it right if u wanna rage bait.

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LGBTQIA+ 7w

ellie

historically it was used towards queer women as well (just not as frequently) . there's an episode of making gay history that goes into details of historical experiences of queer women. at least get it right if u wanna rage bait.

LGBTQIA+ 7w

Can lesbians say the f slur?? It’s always felt weird to me bc historically it was always used towards gay men and I also don’t feel comfy saying the d slur as a guy??

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Yes

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Anonymous 7w

this same slur discourse happens every other day. ffs LET HER DIE.

Anonymous 7w

Any queer person can use it

Anonymous 7w

It was a slur that’s origin was meant for old women in the 1500s.. but when it was brought back in the early 1900s it was used as a way to call men effeminate and soft. Sure in the past women have been called that.. but the actual term in this context is a bit towards men in meaning. Calling a woman effeminate doesn’t use the actual connotation that the slur means, ya know? I’ve watched all of making gay history, I just don’t necessarily agree with that take

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Anonymous

ellie 7w

As a gay man it makes me uncomfortable for women to jokingly say f*g all the time. So I solely asked bc I was curious on others thoughts. Not trying to fucking rage bait.

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Anonymous

#1 7w

it was used a ton towards gnc and butch presenting individuals... either way, are we really at the point where we have to rehash this shit every other day? 😭

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Anonymous

#1 7w

yeah you never know who gets called what in our lifetime! im trans and have been called it a ton. your comfort doesn't mean much when i've earned my stripes. slur police.

Anonymous

ellie 7w

So people can police some slurs but not others?? Like every single straight person got called that like 10 years ago but do we want straight men calling people that again?? I was just curious on peoples thoughts on the line. That is all.

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Anonymous

#1 7w

you made a blanket statement about women... but you should never assume someone's experience just because they're female or cis/straight presenting...

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Anonymous

ellie 7w

and obviously slurs should never be used derogatorily.

Anonymous

ellie 7w

So everyone should just be able to say every slur without question bc nobody knows their backstories like they do?

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Anonymous

#1 7w

**unless it’s used in a derogatory context

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Anonymous

#1 7w

hi woman here that’s been called it as a slur. please go on and tell me how my lived experiences don’t matter when it comes to this

Anonymous

#1 7w

dawg why are you purposely replying to the worst possible interpretation. Its almost like you’re just trying to start an argument or something

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Anonymous

#1 7w

if you come up making a fuss about me saying a slur in public just be prepared for me to hash it out like i'm doing here. you know what they say about assumptions

Anonymous

#2 7w

Right but I’ve been called every slur under the fucking sun at one point or another.. is that the line we are choosing? Is just if you’ve been called it, you can say it? I’m literally just trying to understand that perspective

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Anonymous

#1 7w

the perspective is that it's not your place in the community to police other members' slur usage!

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ellie 7w

Aight im simply trying to understand but asking questions gets me yelled at so.. ill leave the community, that’s fine. Have a good one.

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Anonymous

#1 7w

the perspective is use common fucking sense

Anonymous

#1 7w

we gave you an answer. you didn’t like it an argued back. if you really wanted to know you would have listened instead of fighting back

Anonymous

#1 7w

For the record, although your tone is a bit aggressive I think what you’re saying makes perfect sense. I personally feel uncomfortable with anyone using slurs (in a non-meta-linguistic way) whether they can reclaim them or not, and I don’t really hang around people who do. If you feel uncomfortable with women using the f-slur that’s totally valid. I don’t think your interpretation of the comments is straw-manned like #2 indicated, but again I think your tone is a bit harsher than needed.