I’m sorry he doesn’t agree with it. But at least he’s supportive from what I can tell. Best of luck 🤞🏼♥️

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hey dawg. it stinks that your dad doesn’t “agree.” that can feel sticky. but can i just say that the way your dad made sure to remind you that you’re loved for the person he created is so deep and amazing. i’m glad you have that support, internet stranger.

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tbh that’s a pretty great response from someone who doesn’t agree with it. he’s trying to put himself in your place. definitely something to work with there. proud of you

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god loves gay ppl!!

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Honestly, rather a parent who disagrees but still loves you, than a parent who will just throw you out on the street and disown you. He seems like one of those "hate the sin not the sinner" types which is frustrating but I know gay people who have been dealt MUCH worse hands than that.

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there are a lot of materials and biblical theology that you can introduce to your dad to hopefully help change his perspective. you have to meet people on their level

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this hurt to read but as others stated, it’s great he’s at least still there to love you and support you as a person. this is also an indicator he may fully come around later on. it seems very odd but there are real cases of people who unlearn homophobia slowly when they find out someone they’re close to is queer

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This is a pretty iffy response, but I think it’s god damn hilarious that he took your reaction to a scene in Stranger Things and knew “Yup this kid’s gay af”

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i think this is the beginning of a road to real understanding for him. it is pretty promising to be in a mindset where you believe being gay is wrong, but still have that initial breakthrough of empathy, enough to reach out and let you know that you are loved and that he sees you. he believes it is wrong because that is what he was told, and now he has a real, powerful reason to reprogram that. its definitely not the best response but i like that he is going against his programming to love you

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Hey man, my mom told me she was disappointed because she wanted more grandchildren, but besides that she was completely on board that my future partner maybe a women. She told me she always knew that I fancied both women and men and would be happy if there was just someone to help care for me as a person, no matter the gender, shape, or size. Sometimes we just don’t get the reactions we want, but that’s life. It’s just nice to be accepted even w/mixed feelings ❤️❤️

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my fam had a similar response years ago when i came out, it’s been a while since but they’ve come around a lot more from the “i love you but it’s wrong” stance. i send lots of love and hope! 🥰🫶🫶

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it’s cool that he’s supportive but God literally never mentioned gay ppl

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As someone raised religiously god never actually said he’s against literally anyone let alone gays. The few times the bible talks about anything like homosexuality it’s actually mistranslated and in fact talking about a power dynamic in which people would force themselves on their servants (often young boys). Another fact is the concept of homosexuality did not exist at that time to be talked about

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im sorry but the stranger things reference had me rolling 😭

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I’m proud of you for coming out and glad that his response was honest but still supportive. My family doesn’t agree with mine either and honestly I feel like agreement isn’t necessarily required to be loved and supported.

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“God and the Gay Christian” by Matthew Vines

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it sounds like he’s working to understand! i’m proud of you babe. you’re very very brave

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I’ve been here. Honestly Those Luke warm responses feel like the worst kind of response because if they were horrible at least you could hate them and if they were accepting you could shamelessly be yourself and love them, but the luke warm feels unsettling like nothing is resolved and you still have to tip toe around it and avoid things to not have them give your a disappointed look or something

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Sending you love and support <3

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this is great but where does god ever say anything against it… I want to know because I’m mlm and have dealt with this answer so I love and hate this I’m sorry 😭

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This is his way of supporting you. It doesn’t feel great I know, but he truely does love you. Maybe that love will turn into acceptance with time or maybe not, either way we are all here for you! A chosen family can be just as good as a bio family! You can DM me if you ever want to talk ❤️

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I hate the people who say they “disagree.” It’s just so rude, there’s actually no reason you have to vocalize that to someone, people just do it because it gives them a power trip. Like ok sport, I disagree with your receding hairline and low IQ I guess

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He will come around. Don’t worry. ❤️‍🩹

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He’ll come around. It will take time, but it’s very evident your father loves you above all else. His beliefs will morph to fully fit his love for you I promise ❤️

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I’m proud of you

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it’s better that he’s conflicted about it rather than just being straight up mad, but also obviously not what you hope for when coming out to your parents. i hope he goes on to deconstruct his prejudices, and i hope you two can have the honest, healthy relationship you deserve❤️ we’re proud of you.

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I’m proud of you

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my parents had the same response. sending love and support

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I think he will come around further, in time.

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