LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | People who message trans men to ask how far along they are in their transition only to ghost them if they say anything other than pre medical transition or early on in it <<<< The level of cognitive dissonance is wild…you want a woman, just say that

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People who message trans men to ask how far along they are in their transition only to ghost them if they say anything other than pre medical transition or early on in it <<<< The level of cognitive dissonance is wild…you want a woman, just say that

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Anonymous 1d

I fear many cis men in particular get off on the fantasy of winning over an early- or pre-T trans guy just to coerce him into abandoning the pursuit of medical transition like they actually have some kind of kink for forcibly reprogramming our identities, where they either want to force-feminize a man without abandoning the comfort of straight identity or they view it as an intensified version of “taming the tomboy” fetishism

Anonymous 1d

I remember that my ex was super against me getting any surgery or taking any hormones, and was obsessed when I took my binder off (I was roughly an F cup before my top surgery) and when I dumped him it was the most freeing thing ever, I had my top surgery the next month and I never looked back

Anonymous 1d

I had this guy ghost me bc he wanted a FFM threesome and told me to pretend to be a woman bc I didn’t get bottom surgery and I obviously said no coz I was like what??? 😭 crazy to assume I would agree??

Anonymous 1d

This is one of those questions I could NEVER imagine asking someone. If they want to offer it up that’s one thing

Anonymous 1d

That’s so fucked, I’m sorry this has been happening.

Anonymous 1d

That’s actually super disrespectful to someone’s transition and their identity.

Anonymous

#2 1d

I can definitely see how it comes across that way. I’m not trying to say that trans men who have not medically transitioned/are early in their transition are women or are like women. But unfortunately people like the ones I’m speaking in my post do see pre-transition/early transition trans guys that way, and oftentimes they are literally just waiting to hear that you’re early on so they can refer to you as a woman and/or convince you to detransition.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Right! Yeah I was referring to the men who seek pretransitioned trans guys, that’s rlly disrespectful on their end.

Anonymous

#2 1d

Okay cool, apologies for the misinterpretation! I absolutely agree with you