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LGBTQIA+ 1w
I’m struggling with gender stuff and want to not transition. It keeps going through my head and I know I won’t be able to. Anyone have advice on repressing this whole thing?
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Anonymous 1w

Gender is such a weird thing One day you’ll feel like yourself and love who you are The next day you’ll want to claw off ur skin because it disgusts you so much My best advice is to just keep being you Express yourself however you want Youre not going to have a good day every day and thats totally normal Just make the best of it

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Anonymous 1w

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to really transition like I want to bc it’s not worth what it would cost from the life I already have. Something that’s helped me is doing small things that feel feminizing but most people wouldn’t pick up on, like tying my sweatshirt around my waist or letting my hair get just long enough that I can see it stick out behind my neck.

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Anonymous 1w

I say this as someone who is not trans and was privileged enough to be assigned the gender i most identify with at birth. When you have to look at the cost of being you vs the cost of being what others are comfortable with you being then you kinda stop living for yourself and instead you’re living for others. And more importantly you are appeasing. And historically appeasing never works.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I can not imagine to truly understand what your experience is however when you repress something you are creating energy and no matter how much you repress something it will eventually have to decompress and the more you try to repress the stronger the force when it decompress.

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Anonymous replying to -> fatassratinasombrero 1w

I need to get rid of this cause it will hurt me in the future.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I think you should try to accept the possibility that there is no “getting rid of this”. Because the vast majority of the time there isn’t, and we shouldn’t base our life plans on the off chance of an exception.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

There’s a possibility, but I’d be happier dead if so

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I’m sorry I didn’t mean to be insensitive :(

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Anonymous replying to -> fatassratinasombrero 1w

Hey, you are ok. I didn’t take it that way. Just a bad headspace.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Been there before Hope you feel better 😊

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