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I’ll just leave this here
69 upvotes, 23 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "I’ll just leave this here"
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Anonymous 6w

Omg I just made a post about this

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Anonymous 6w

We really should consider why we have these ‘preferences’ because they often are linked to internalized stereotypes

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Anonymous 6w

“Racism is just my preference no offense”

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Anonymous 6w

Average MLM interaction as a black person

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Anonymous 6w

I think most people like this don’t understand that it’s not just a preference that is inherent to who they are, it’s is an intolerance that has been learned.

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Anonymous 6w

I’m not sure it’s racist, it’s preference. If someone prefers younger men, it’s not ageism. I think it limits your chances to find the one but I don’t think preferences are against anyone.

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Anonymous 6w

People can have preference. Some people prefer brunettes over blonde, some prefer men or women or nonbinary people, some prefer a specific race. Rarely is it because of look, it’s generally because of a culture or personality difference. For example, tell me you can’t hear what a black person sounds like in your head. Not that all black people sound that way it’s just a difference. Maybe that’s not the case since the way this message was worded, it wasn’t great.

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Anonymous replying to -> spotted 6w

exclusion is by definition not a preference. you don't know the meaning of the word. you are an apologist for racists

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

I’m not apologizing for anyone. I was just offering a possible alternative to what it was. But, maybe you are correct and all preferences are exclusionary.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

But people are allowed to not be attracted to every other person in existence.

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Anonymous replying to -> spotted 6w

I see your point, but I think if you’re a white person who doesn’t want to date POC that doesn’t exist in a vacuum. You’re affected by your society and systemic racism in your preferences whether you realize it or not. So if you have that preference I think you need to deconstruct your internalized racism that affects that preference A LOT and I don’t think many “whites only” people have done that…

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Anonymous replying to -> spotted 6w

preferences aren’t exclusionary, people just refuse to call exclusion an exclusion 😭 the term “preference” has become watered down by people using it to sugarcoat how they’d never date your demographic

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

what does hair or skin color have to do “culture or personality” 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> spotted 6w

apologia is not the same as apologizing. preferences are by definition not exclusionary. you just have a shit vocabulary

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Anonymous replying to -> spotted 6w

like i'm sorry but you don't know what any of the key words we're all using mean

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

“Please let me be racist”

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Anonymous replying to -> spotted 6w

It’s racist. Excluding an entire demographic when they fit inside your sexuality is inherently discriminatory.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

Ew. Work on yourself.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

You are correct I didn’t know that word.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

I agree I looked it up thank you for bringing to my attention.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6w

Ok I see what you mean. I’m not defending the person because I don’t know what this person believes. I just read the post and offered an alternative perspective. However I do see the problem now. I assumed they responded it’s my preference no offense was a way to ignore the question, I misinterpreted the conversation.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

I see what you were saying but the hearing what a black person sounds like is a bit off.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 6w

Don’t tell the les4les crowd this

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