
I only use it around friends who I know would be comfortable with it I’m only comfortable using it as I’m a member of the lgbtqia+ community I don’t use it publicly, infront of people I know would be hurt by it if made uncomfortable by it, or in a generally harmful way and honestly the reason I and the friends I have who say it use the word jokingly is because we live in a semi rural area in the south and using it as a joke makes it hurt less to us when someone uses it in a harmful way