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LGBTQIA+ 14h
Man, I wish more people would actually stop referring to me with she/her pronouns. I’ve stated multiple times that I use He/They, but I guess my identity isn't real if I don't look gender neutral or manly enough. Like I'm sorry I like feminine stuff 🫩
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Anonymous 14h

Like I get that I don't look like a guy, I get that I don’t dress extremely gender neutral or masculine, I get that I exist in traditionally female spaces (Greek life), but I’ve stated so many times I don't use she/her and it's gotten to a point

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Anonymous 10h

Stuff like this is why idk wether or not to come out Like I’ve only recently really realized I’m some flavor of enby but some of my friends at college have made it clear they’d struggle with the pronouns (It’s fr not that hard like cmon guys😭😭)

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Anonymous 14h

What do your friends/other greek life “sisters” do when someone misgenders you? Not saying they should start a fight on your behalf or anything but i think it would help if they gently corrected people or emphasized your right pronouns when talking to others - it’s not like you’d be talking about yourself in third person normally, and it’s such a burden on you to interrupt someone and tell them they’ve misgendered you over and over.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

Like androgyny might help idk, a lot of people who are androgynous still get misgendered tho. Personally i’m someone who isn’t nb but my best friend growing up was, and it really had more of an impact on people to hear them being referred to correctly by others. Like if someone says “oh i’m taking a class with her” and you respond “oh you’re taking a class with them? That’s great, they said blah blah blah” if that person has any social awareness and isn’t a bigot they might clock themselves

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Anonymous 10h

Bro just leave this isn’t the place for u if ur gonna be an ass

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10h

And I have other friends that would do just fine but if I were to finally build the courage to tell people only for it to be disregarded/forgotten it’d really hurt more than if I never said anything

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Anonymous 9h

Why are you in the LGBTQ+ community if you're just going to be homophobic 🫩 It’s basic human decency to show respect, but I guess you aren't a decent person

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