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LGBTQIA+ 11w
Friend said I’m invalidating their identity because I (at the request of several others, mind you) asked them to stop bringing their straight boyfriend to so many queer spaces because it was fucking up the vibe and making people uncomfortable
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Anonymous 11w

if they don’t get they bobble head ass on😂 it’s no way they thought bringing a cis guy to queer spaces EVERY time would be cool.

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Anonymous 11w

what's he doing at these spaces? context is so incredibly important

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Anonymous 11w

Bruh he’s clearly an ally if he’s dating a non straight person and showing up to queer events. This is what makes straight people resent us and stop being allies. Yta

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

Being an ally is great, but not every space should be catering to them. And if that’s all it takes for them to resent us, they were never an ally to begin with

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

I know this is nitpicky but cis men do belong in queer spaces if they’re queer…

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 11w

Except he isn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 11w

Honestly being uncomfortable and standoffish

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

That’s literally not true by the way. That’s like being like “I’m not racist bc my friend is black!” Also queer ppl can be bigoted to other queer ppl so this is a terrible point to make

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 11w

i’m cool if they go i have cis friends that don’t ever mind going to queer spaces n that’s great, but they don’t ALWAYS try to come. even then it also just seems like they’re not comfortable with bro always being around. they prolly js wanna be friends hanging out

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

Not only that but it’s not like we don’t try to welcome him or be friends with him, he just will not try to talk or interact with any of us and acts uncomfortable all the time and is constantly texting my friend any time they’re not at his side

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 11w

The amount of nonbinary afab people that date straight men that refuse to see them as anything but a woman proves this

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 11w

If he was being actually bigoted like how queer folks are bigoted towards other queer folks, then sure obviously you have a reason to kick him out. But they’re choosing to kick him out for merely existing with his queer PARTNER, not friend. You’d think his queer partner would know him well enough to know he’s not bigoted before taking him to these spaces. You guys are literally judging a book by its cover and instead of trying to learn it by getting to know him as a person rather than his

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

Sexuality, you’re ripping it up and making yourself look like an asshole to allies. Smh

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

my issue was more with them saying cis as if queer spaces = trans spaces

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

how are you gonna say he’s being kicked out for just existing when OP literally said he was making them uncomfortable? reading comprehension isn’t your best skill huh

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 11w

like obviously he’s doing something weird lmfao

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