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LGBTQIA+ 20h
Friend said I’m invalidating their identity because I (at the request of several others, mind you) asked them to stop bringing their straight boyfriend to so many queer spaces because it was fucking up the vibe and making people uncomfortable
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Anonymous 18h

if they don’t get they bobble head ass on😂 it’s no way they thought bringing a cis guy to queer spaces EVERY time would be cool.

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Anonymous 15h

what's he doing at these spaces? context is so incredibly important

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Anonymous 15h

Bruh he’s clearly an ally if he’s dating a non straight person and showing up to queer events. This is what makes straight people resent us and stop being allies. Yta

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14h

Being an ally is great, but not every space should be catering to them. And if that’s all it takes for them to resent us, they were never an ally to begin with

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

I know this is nitpicky but cis men do belong in queer spaces if they’re queer…

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 14h

Except he isn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14h

Honestly being uncomfortable and standoffish

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10h

That’s literally not true by the way. That’s like being like “I’m not racist bc my friend is black!” Also queer ppl can be bigoted to other queer ppl so this is a terrible point to make

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6h

i’m cool if they go i have cis friends that don’t ever mind going to queer spaces n that’s great, but they don’t ALWAYS try to come. even then it also just seems like they’re not comfortable with bro always being around. they prolly js wanna be friends hanging out

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6h

Not only that but it’s not like we don’t try to welcome him or be friends with him, he just will not try to talk or interact with any of us and acts uncomfortable all the time and is constantly texting my friend any time they’re not at his side

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6h

The amount of nonbinary afab people that date straight men that refuse to see them as anything but a woman proves this

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