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LGBTQIA+ 2w
Hey so a friend of mine said they were in an aromantic and asexual relationship with someone. Is that not just being friends? Lmk. Not trying to come across as rude. I just genuinely don’t know
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Anonymous 2w

Hi, Ace/aro person here with an Ace/aro partner: asexuality and aromanticism are lack of sexual and romantic ATTRACTION, so you could still be dating/having sex while ace/aro. The attraction is the initial pull, not necessarily the act of sex itself. That being said, if your friend defined their RELATIONSHIP itself as ace/aro, they may have what is often called a queerplatonic relationship (QPR)

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Anonymous 2w

I think it’s considered platonic, yeah. But I don’t know, people can define their relationship by things like commitment and non-romantic intimacy I guess? I’m not aro though so I might just be speaking out my ass.

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Anonymous 2w

It’s nice to have another soul who completes you

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

This is what my partner and I have. Everyone defines it differently, but generally the idea is: This is not romance, but we are committed to each other and connected in a way that’s different from friendship. My partner and I live together, we want to get married someday, we want to spend the rest of our lives together. We’re friends, sure, but we’re also life partners. We just don’t have sex and we sleep in separate rooms.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Again, everyone defines it differently. QPR is an umbrella term. But going back to your specific situation: I’d say if your friend says it’s not just a friendship, it’s not just a friendship. Sometimes relationships are hard to define. It’s okay if you don’t get it, I’m sure what really matters to them is that you respect that their relationship is important to them, even if it looks different than most people’s. That’s how I feel when I tell people about my QPR, anyway.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Oh yea I definitely respect them 1000%. I’m fully out as gay at a school where there’s not many gay ppl and they are among the queer friends I have made here and are some of the most supportive people I know. But to the main point, yes I do understand it a bit better

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Great! Glad I could help❤️

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