LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | does anyone else thing it's weird when straight women want to get tattoos for gay shows/movies? specifically gay men? like yk do whatever you want with your body but at the same time i feel like they shouldn't be doing that. it's not made for them yk?

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LGBTQIA+ 4w

does anyone else thing it's weird when straight women want to get tattoos for gay shows/movies? specifically gay men? like yk do whatever you want with your body but at the same time i feel like they shouldn't be doing that. it's not made for them yk?

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Anonymous 4w

people will develop attachments to any media for any reason, even if it’s not “for them”. who gaf 😭. unless this is about a specific occurrence?

Anonymous 4w

I think it might depend on what the tattoo is if it's a show that means a lot to them then i don't think there's anything weird about that, even if they aren't the target audience. like I'm aroace and I connect deeply to a lot of queer media although none of it applies to me yk but if they're getting the tattoo just to appear subversive or if the tattoo itself is kind of fetishizing then that'd be super weird

Anonymous 4w

It’s definitely at least a little strange. It’s giving fujoshi, or at least very strange vibes

Anonymous 4w

who’s getting tattoos for gay shows or movies 😭

Anonymous 4w

I truly don’t know why a straight woman would resonate super strongly with gay shows. Unless she’s also like trans or something? I could see a movie like brokeback mountain resonating as like, not hiding yourself and how sad it is to not be able to be yourself and loosing people idk. But either way, maybe you watched brokeback mountain and really loved it and it changed your life 15-20 years ago, maybe tattoo is okay. If you watched heated rivalry two months ago, wait.

Anonymous 4w

Is she weirdly fetishizing the men in these shows/movie

Anonymous

#1 4w

a friend of mine i fear

Anonymous

OP 4w

ngl it’s a little weird. your body your choice but i feel like that’s going to be a tattoo she ends up regretting

Anonymous

#1 4w

yea she wants to get one for like all the popular gay shows she likes and like i don't wanna tell her what she can and can't get tattooed since she's not doing in a derogatory way but it still feels wrong

Anonymous

OP 4w

OP may I politely inquire what the tattoo is

Anonymous

#4 4w

yea she's not queer at all she's a straight cis woman and wants to do these things

Anonymous

#2 4w

she has quite a few in mind but the shows she wants to do are young royals, heartstopper, red white & royal blue, cmbyn, and heated rivalry. none of them are like weird tattoos ig but like it still feels a little weird

Anonymous

#3 4w

no i totally agree because im also aroace and she's not doing any like "weird" tattoos for them so i haven't said anything but i just feels kinda weird to me since she can't even remotely relate to them yk?

Anonymous

OP 4w

What show is it I genuinely am so intrested

Anonymous

OP 4w

Does she want tattoos for shows that ARENT gay?

Anonymous

#4 4w

she wants to get them for young royals, heated rivalry, rw&rb, cmbyn, and heartstopper. she hasn't mentioned wanting tattoos for shows they ARENT gay. only these

Anonymous

OP 4w

That’s what I find strange. I’d find it less strange if she was getting tattoos for other romance movies/movies, and also a gay one. But just gay movies is kinda strange?

Anonymous

OP 4w

any idea what the actual designs are?

Anonymous

OP 4w

i get what you’re saying but a lot of people get tattoos for things they enjoy even if they’re not the target audience for that particular thing. imo if she’s not doing it out of ill intent i’d just leave it be.

Anonymous

OP 4w

I get what you mean, the fact that you mentioned she's doing this with five different queer shows is kind of odd so I definitely don't blame you for feeling weird like if I had to guess there's maybe some kind of novelty to it for her

Anonymous

OP 4w

i mean this respectfully, but saying that non-queer ppl can’t “remotely relate” to queer stories is actually harmful. it’s part of why (for ex.) queer media struggles to get funded/greenlit. it’s also just untrue and othering. there are many cishet stories i relate to or find meaningful despite not being cishet. to extend it further, similarly there are many pieces of non-white or international that i find meaningful—i don’t have to be represented to empathize or recognize universal themes.

Anonymous

#7 4w

no i mean i totally understand that and i would never tell her NOT to it just feels weird bc she's not doing with any other types of shows (i probably should've mentioned that earlier)

Anonymous

#2 4w

she wants to do things that symbolize the lovers in each show/movie. i don't actually hate any of them but it just kinda icks me out since it's ONLY male-centered shows

Anonymous

#5 4w

thankfully no, but she has said that she prefers watching men rather than women and has specifically said "i don't care about this" when she sees a lesbian side-couple within the series

Anonymous

OP 4w

ngl getting a tattoo of a TV show is weird to me to begin with

Anonymous

OP 4w

That’s interesting that she has specifically said that she doesn’t care about seeing this when it is lesbians but is obsessed at the point of getting tattoos of gay men

Anonymous

#5 4w

yea that's why i find it weird that she wants these tattoos like if she didn't say all of that i genuinely wouldn't care yk like free will and all that