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Should sexual compatibility really matter when you're gay? I feel like if you like someone you're gonna be happy with each other regardless
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Anonymous 2d

I mean I’d prefer to be sexually compatible with someone. I feel like that would make it pretty nice. Being sexually unsatisfied or frustrated can be really bad for some folks. Other people may not mind, but a lot will. For me personally I would much rather be with someone I match well with. Sex isn’t the end all be all but it can still be important

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Anonymous 2d

Depends on the person

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Anonymous 2d

Yes and no, to me sexual chemistry is very important because that is my strongest form of intimacy. I value sx and knk, so for me it does matter. But if it doesn’t matter as much to you, then just be happy with who you’re with!

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Anonymous 2d

Yes… if they aren’t into the same stuff you are, that’s ALLOWED to be a dealbreaker.

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Anonymous 1d

Nah still important imo Source: am gay

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Anonymous 2d

what does sexual compatibility mean in this case /gen

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Anonymous 1d

This comment section been helpful. I don't think heteronormative culture is entirely bad, but this rigidness in having a designated top or bottom in the relationship is perhaps unhealthy for a gay relationship. I'd like to hear your thoughts on this too please.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

If it matters to you that’s ok and if it doesn’t matter to you that’s also ok

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Top & Bottom. Are there other sexual options?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

like kinks and stuff, or how often you want to have sex, or how long, or other preferences. sexual compatibility can mean a lot of things, yeah. thanks for clarification tho :)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Theres WAYYY more nuance than just top and bottom brochacho :/

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Side and vers to name a few as well as sex drive, stamina, kink or no etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Kinks confuse me tbh, I know about the violent ones which scare tbh. But my point is, if you like each other you can alternate, you can both be verses if you will. The sexual intimacy can be fulfilled by several ways you know.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

It’s not unhealthy, it’s just not universal. It works for some people, not for others, and that’s fine

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

With kinks you dont need to only be into the violent ones… there are super subtle kinks that most people have but just dont acknowledge as kinks (ex: lingerie, thongs, names in bed, body kissing, praise, degrading, etc). Those are all forms of kink! You dont need to be into all kinks, just the ones you enjoy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

unfortunately you can’t always choose what your preference is during sex. in my case i’m a stone bottom. no matter who i’m with, how much i’m into them, or how many times i try, topping just isn’t smth i’m comfortable or find pleasure in doing. some people are verses tho and genuinely enjoy both. the point is that it matters differently to different people.

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