LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | Lesbians, please weigh in. My sister bought me this sweater for my birthday. It’s in lesbian flag colors. Would it still be ok for me to wear it to queer events if I’m WLW but not a lesbian? I’d like to indicate that I’m looking for a girlfriend.

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Lesbians, please weigh in. My sister bought me this sweater for my birthday. It’s in lesbian flag colors. Would it still be ok for me to wear it to queer events if I’m WLW but not a lesbian? I’d like to indicate that I’m looking for a girlfriend.

180 upvotes, 37 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "Lesbians, please weigh in. My sister bought me this sweater for my birthday. It’s in lesbian flag colors. Would it still be ok for me to wear it to queer events if I’m WLW but not a lesbian? I’d like to indicate that I’m looking for a girlfriend."

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Anonymous 1w

I meaaann if you’re so worrrieeeddd I can always take it off your handsss

Anonymous 1w

do not listen to #1 they tryna steal your swag it is SUPER cute wear it wherever you feel like!!!

Anonymous 1w

wearing a pride flag's colors when it's not your pride flag is fine

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Anonymous 1w

Its not technically explicitly the lesibian flag or design so its just a colorful coat just wear it

Anonymous 1w

But yeah #2 is correct Literally just wear it an if anyone says anything just explain

Anonymous 1w

no you’ll die from botulism

Anonymous 1w

It’s just colors dude you can wear what you want

Anonymous 1w

Youre fine i dont think its really true to the flag colors anyway,

Anonymous 6d

I mean does anyone really give a fuck if a bi girl calls herself a lesbian when she’s looking for girls to date?

Anonymous 1w

You didnt buy it lol its just a funny coincidence that its in those colors! Enjoy it cuz its swag— sincerely a lesbian

Anonymous 1w

No one will think twice about it dw

Anonymous 1w

bestie i say this with the most love… grow a spine and trust yourself on these decisions

Anonymous 1w

yea you’re good

Anonymous 6d

It’s literally just a jacket

Anonymous 6d

Do whatever you want forever (like I can see people getting upset if they went to hit on you because you had a lesbian jacket in a queer space and you said you were straight but like as long as you don’t mind people assuming you’re a lesbian)

Anonymous 5d

as a lesbian i would not be terribly offended, especially if this resulted in a convo and or friendship and or romantic connection !

Anonymous 5d

girl wear the sweater

Anonymous

#2 1w

Shhhh I’m tryna expand my lesbian closet Muehehe

Anonymous

#1 1w

Absolutely not!!! I still love it!!! I just don’t want people to think that I’m trying to claim an identity that doesn’t belong to me.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Girlll you’re fineeee If anyone gives you shit either just explain or ignore them

Anonymous

#12 6d

I’m very glad you haven’t experienced this side of the internet yet but yes there’s a group of people that get vehemently mad about this

Anonymous

#12 6d

But definitely take it with a grain of salt because it’s just a loud group of people on the Internet. Not reflective of real life

Anonymous

#10 6d

Well it actually IS problematic to call yourself a lesbian when youre not tho 😭

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Anonymous

#10 6d

It in a way (ik not intentionally) invalidates lesbians and our label which is the only label that doesn’t include men in any capacity and allows for people to suggest “we would find the right man” because a bi girl may have called herself a lesbian. (Not talking about bi girls who came out after identifying as a lesbian)

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Anonymous

#8 6d

No yeah I agree I just mean some people get like violently angry. I do agree it is problematic

Anonymous

#10 6d

Yeah idk i get why they may be mad but getting violently angry seems reductive lol, you get more flies with sugar or whatever

Anonymous

#8 6d

Mainly a dumb tik tok thing

Anonymous

#8 6d

The average regular human being doesn’t

Anonymous

#10 6d

Unfortunately as you are aware the average tiktok queer is usually chronically online and has never talked to another gay before 😂

Anonymous

#8 6d

LOL yeah. They’re also like 20 and think they know everything about the queer community

Anonymous

#10 6d

I saw a 22 year old woman call herself a “queer elder” like what are we doing 😭

Anonymous

#8 6d

That bothers me so much. We didn’t just spawn out of nowhere with the legalization of gay marriage in the US.

Anonymous

OP 6d

No dont you know? Obama birthed all of us in 2015

Anonymous

#8 6d

obamna

Anonymous

#6 6d

Why did you get summoned like a sleeper agent

Anonymous

#8 6d

my trigger word is obama

Anonymous

#6 6d

😭