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ftm guy here. if you are only wanting to be with a trans man bc he's "masculine with no peen" because you don't like that organ, that is not you viewing your partner as a man. you like masculine women
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Anonymous 4w

okay i think 1 blocked me but it's very common for trans people to be told they're the "best of both worlds" or other similar jokes because they're trans. it's very common for bisexuals to just not understand it's offensive but it's an honest mistake and they just need to learn about it and why it comes off wrong

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Anonymous 4w

fellow ftm here. i cannot see the original post (i assume it was deleted) but from what you're saying in your post it really seems like you're making an issue out of nothing. like. i prefer to be penetrated during sex so i typically date people with dicks. doesn't mean that if i dated a trans woman i would see her as a man. people can have genital preferences and it is entirely possible to be attracted to a pre or non-op transgender person and still see them as their actual gender.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

it sounds like maybe you're saying this from a place of having been fetishized before, which i totally get, and i understand why you would be on edge. but someone having a genital preference in no way indicates that they don't see you as the correct gender. people of any gender can have any genitals.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

i understand your point and i believe that could be the case but again it's not just me. a group of trans people had a discussion about the post in another community. the post was saying op is "torn between a masc lesbian and a ftm" then saying "at this point i think i just like masculinity without peen" and it came off wrong

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

The way it was said, lumping masc lesbians and “this ftm” into the same category, was really gross

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

Not even a “trans man” a “ftm” 😬

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