
okay i think 1 blocked me but it's very common for trans people to be told they're the "best of both worlds" or other similar jokes because they're trans. it's very common for bisexuals to just not understand it's offensive but it's an honest mistake and they just need to learn about it and why it comes off wrong
fellow ftm here. i cannot see the original post (i assume it was deleted) but from what you're saying in your post it really seems like you're making an issue out of nothing. like. i prefer to be penetrated during sex so i typically date people with dicks. doesn't mean that if i dated a trans woman i would see her as a man. people can have genital preferences and it is entirely possible to be attracted to a pre or non-op transgender person and still see them as their actual gender.
it sounds like maybe you're saying this from a place of having been fetishized before, which i totally get, and i understand why you would be on edge. but someone having a genital preference in no way indicates that they don't see you as the correct gender. people of any gender can have any genitals.
i understand your point and i believe that could be the case but again it's not just me. a group of trans people had a discussion about the post in another community. the post was saying op is "torn between a masc lesbian and a ftm" then saying "at this point i think i just like masculinity without peen" and it came off wrong