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LGBTQIA+ 20h
Let’s be transparent… if you are not white or athletic or attractive, it’s very hard to be gay out here.
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Anonymous 11h

I’m not gonna disagree, but that’s not a gay-specific issue. All three of those things give you advantages regardless of your sexuality

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Anonymous 16h

Nowadays you don’t have to be athletic. I’ve seen so many ppl in relationships with heavy ppl and even have kinks for them. It’s just about the individuals and the environment you’re in. If you go to predominantly white gay spaces then yeah being white would probably give you an advantage but going to Black and Latino gay spaces being white would give you a disadvantage. Also being attractive is mediocre because that’s just something everyone wants in a partner regardless of sexuality. If

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Anonymous 9h

Why are you surprised it’s hard to find a partner if you aren’t attractive?? Regardless of sexuality, someone being attracted to you is a necessary component of a relationship (for most people)

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Anonymous 16h

No it isn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

If anything an attractive face matters more than an attractive body.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14h

I was with someone who had a thing for heavier dudes and it was actually kinda uncomfortable for me. Made me feel like i was a sex object for him. He assured me that wasnt the case but seeing the kind of media he consumed was a huge turn off

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14h

Exactly why I stay away from ppl who fetishize other because it’s not true attraction.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11h

yes, but it seems exacerbated in the gay world

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10h

The issues of your own community are always going to feel more pronounced than the issues you’re not facing personally

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10h

I agree 100% from a cognitive bias pov; however, I also think that having these issues in a smaller, already marginalized community is a lot more damaging to the cause because the marginalization compounds

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