LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | Specifically told my gynecologist not to use soothing/endearing phrases during my pelvic exam because they’re a massive trigger for me. First thing she says when she starts the actual exam? “You’re doing great, sweetie” ANNND we’re done here, goodbye

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Specifically told my gynecologist not to use soothing/endearing phrases during my pelvic exam because they’re a massive trigger for me. First thing she says when she starts the actual exam? “You’re doing great, sweetie” ANNND we’re done here, goodbye

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Anonymous 12h

people really just cannot follow simple instructions huh

Anonymous 13h

i’m so sorry :(

Anonymous 9h

Literally just ridiculous asf. This is exactly why I believe gender roles are a social construct and we must accommodate for ppl as individuals rather than the sex they’re born as. Just because you’re born a female doesn’t mean you like being called sweetie. Same goes for ppl whom are AMAB, just because you’re born male doesn’t mean you like being called bro or boss.

Anonymous

#2 10h

No fr, I even told her that if she’d like to talk to me to avoid awkward silence, I’d prefer if she just narrated what she’s doing before/as she does it. Or just ask me the most boring mundane questions she could come up with, literally anything to avoid the trigger and keep me grounded during the exam. How do you ignore all of the options presented to you and go with the ONE thing I asked you not to do

Anonymous

#3 9h

Honestly, I didn’t even really ask her to avoid using that kind of tone/language due to dysphoria reasons, it’s a legitimate trauma trigger for me and I told her why. I don’t love feminine coded pet names, but I was very vulnerable with her, so she was fully aware of why it’s triggering and did it anyways