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So I’m an AFAB demigirl & I’m ok with she/ her pronouns but any time someone says I’m VERY fem I want to rip my skin off. I did not cut my hair short & put on baggy clothes just to be read as fem. Yes I’m short and wear makeup but I look 12 w/o makeup 😭
26 upvotes, 8 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "So I’m an AFAB demigirl & I’m ok with she/ her pronouns but any time someone says I’m VERY fem I want to rip my skin off. I did not cut my hair short & put on baggy clothes just to be read as fem. Yes I’m short and wear makeup but I look 12 w/o makeup 😭"
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Anonymous 4w

I hate my height so much as an NB it makes me want to commit larson

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Anonymous 4w

Also the makeup I wear: bronzer, concealer lip (so my lips aren’t so pink), contouring, thicker & darker eyebrows… I’ve tried every androgynous makeup tip except for drawing on a mustache but I’m afraid that would read as a little too masc (even though I like dressing like a man). And like I said I’m short PLUS I have a pear/ guitar shaped body (VERY fem body naturally). But I just get so frustrated it’s like ppl just see my petite curvy body and what little makeup I’m wearing

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

And it’s like they just see someone who is hyperfeminine, it’s like nothing I do matters. I would wear a chest binder but I don’t want to look like a freaking 12 year old. I’m just so frustrated. The dysphoria makes me want to drive my car off a cliff some days

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

And when I mean I cut my hair short it’s SHORT. someone said my haircut made me look MORE feminine like fml ig

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Like I would MUCH rather be misgendered and read as a man than be seen as more feminine than I actually am

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

What I will never fully understand is that every short man I know isn’t seen as “feminine” or less masc appearing for being short (like they’re still “obviously” read as men), so why am I an AFAB perceived as more feminine for being short?? It isn’t fair 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I am so sorry, OP. 🥲 I have a friend who’s also a demigirl that leans more to the center. They work out a lot and they’ve reported that putting on some upper body muscle helped with getting read as more nonbinary - oddly enough. But that’s obviously not an everybody solution. 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I started working out some time last year, but stuff keeps coming up and I lose progress 😭Hopefully I’ll soon have the time to really focus on working out.

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