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I have a few trans friends that I try really hard to not misgender, but I am an idiot sometimes. In the case I accidentally misgender them, is it better to draw attention to it by trying to correct it, or should I let it go and try better next time?
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Anonymous 8w

I can’t speak for everyone but I’d rather someone just make a quick correction, instead of ignoring it or overcompensating by apologizing a bunch if that makes sense

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Anonymous 8w

if you notice immediately upon saying it : "oh yeah so he- er, she was saying..." if you notice it later, don't call attention to it, maybe apologize later if it feels right, make sure that the next time you gender them it's correct

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Anonymous 8w

you are allowed to have opinions. I am allowed to say that your opinions make you an asshole. because its really not hard to just call someone what they want to be called. like you call people their names, you should call people their pronouns

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

Ahh that does, thank you!

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Anonymous 8w

sorry but you’ve never experienced dysphoria and frankly should not be using your own experiences to downplay something you’ve never felt

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Anonymous 8w

cis people try to not speak over trans people, impossible

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Anonymous 8w

Pronouns are generally an important part of someone’s identity. They help communicate that strong internal identity. Using someone’s correct pronouns shows you care about them and want them to feel comfortable/safe around you. Changing pronouns is an important part of transitioning, so if you actually care about that person you’ll use their new/correct pronouns. Misgendering someone intentionally, cis or trans, is just disrespectful in general and shows a lack of empathy/care for them

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Anonymous 8w

however you are not experiencing gender dysphoria in the way trans people do

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Anonymous 8w

its not relevant. Your own experience are not relevant in respecting other’s pronouns

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Anonymous 8w

like this whole thing is just an argument to not respect the pronouns of people

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Anonymous 8w

you are treating your experience as a cis person like the epitome of how trans people experience dysphoria. you aren’t even trans. you do not experience dysphoria in the same way. people have severe, life-threatening mental illnesses CAUSED by dysphoria, not just appearing alongside it. please realize how you are speaking for trans people when multiple trans people are telling you that you can’t.

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Anonymous 8w

what rights are you being denied here again?

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Anonymous 8w

you realize that the only people who actually know what death feels like is people who’ve died… right? have you died? then how tf are you gonna have an “opinion” on how that feels? even trans people shouldn’t shit on others just because they don’t feel the same way. you’re insulting people when you do NOT understand how they feel. and it doesn’t matter if you were hospitalized, you admitted your mental illness WASN’T caused by dysphoria. even if it was, you shouldn’t talk shit.

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Anonymous 8w

you still don’t know how every single individual person who’s died feels lmao, so stop acting like you do. also tf is this red herring, stfu and listen to the people who actually experience dysphoria around pronouns instead of saying “well IIIII didn’t feel that so YOUUU must not have either” 💀

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Anonymous 8w

tell someone with bipolar disorder they’re overreacting about a symptom you don’t experience lmao

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Anonymous 8w

went on a crazy rant about "you people" and how you're embarrassed to be part of the queer community because people told you you don't experience gender dysphoria, by the way

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