LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | I’m a trans woman and my professor is saying “he” to refer to me and saying the masculine version of my chosen name. I already sent him an email to clarify I was a woman and that he was pronouncing it wrong. Anything else I should do?

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LGBTQIA+ 1w

I’m a trans woman and my professor is saying “he” to refer to me and saying the masculine version of my chosen name. I already sent him an email to clarify I was a woman and that he was pronouncing it wrong. Anything else I should do?

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Anonymous 1w

Well beyond killing him you should document every further incident

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Anonymous 1w

Has he fixed his FOUL behavior since your email? Or has his balls still not dropped from his chin. Please let me know. I’d love to have a word. I love you queen 🫶🏳️‍⚧️

Anonymous 1w

Hey bestie, so you are going to reach out to the title nine Office to start filing a report in regards to this gather as much evidence of him doing this as you can and I would start cc’ing the head of his department in the email If you have any questions, my DMS are open

Anonymous 1w

bbeat him ith a brick

Anonymous 1w

Your recourse is going to vary by state and by university. Some have very strong protections for you, others not so much (like this is news). Your university should have a non-discrimination office. Contact them. Keep in mind that faculty have strong protections related to academic freedom. It allows them to speak in difficult subjects with some protection, but it also protects them in some inappropriate ways as well. This may fall into that category.

Anonymous 1w

Update us on what if anything happens to him

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Anonymous 1w

record every convo w him, record every class and just cut it down to when he speaks to you if there’s an incident to save space and make an album. document proof for like 2-3 weeks then report

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Anonymous 4h

Correct him loudly in front of the entire class every single time and refuse to respond when he calls you by a name that isn’t yours

Anonymous 1w

Can you please let us know how it goes? I’m hoping this works out queen, if not I hope you seriously consider a lot of these comments they are great advice! :)

Anonymous 1w

Maybe try presenting more feminine? Because realistically people are gonna call you based off what they see. If you want to be identified as a woman, but look very manly getting his gender is gonna be a lot more calm than you think and this is just the god honest

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Anonymous 1w

I’m sorry, but maybe you have a manly looking face…

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Anonymous

#2 1w

I just sent it to him when I made the post so he hasn’t responded yet

Anonymous

#1 1w

i would personally record audio as proof, though that depends on if your state is a one-party or two-party consent state when it comes to audio recording. you have the email to prove you alerted him, if you can/feel safe doing so i’d double down and say it directly to him in person so he can’t say he didn’t see the email if you report him for his behavior

Anonymous

#4 1w

this is a good plan for anyone personal interactions with the prof, but be cautious while doing it in lectures/meetings as some states/unis have rules regarding recordings in class as there are unrelated conversations by third parties involved

Anonymous

#6 1w

If it’s happening during lectures as well and you are unable to record it, write down the date time class and the room the class took place in as well as the prof’s name Make a paper trail, Bestie. (Physical document stuff on your phone or notebook or both)

Anonymous

#5 1w

While I agree, I’m also a Title IX investigator. I consider my university to have strong LGBTQIA+ protections. However, Title IX under the orange shitgibbon in the WH is very weak in this area. University policy may cover misgendering, but if OP was to reach out to DOJ or OCR, I have doubts that they would even open an investigation.

Anonymous

#5 1w

To add to this maybe if op has friends in the class, gather witness names too?

Anonymous

#13 1w

Well if you look like a dick, i still wouldnt call you that to your face!

Anonymous

#13 6d

Most transphobic thing you can fucking say you douche

Anonymous

#13 6d

I can understand if it’s strangers they most likely wouldn’t know and assume, however if someone tells you their identity and you continue to misgender them then that’s just straight up transphobia

Anonymous

#10 6d

I hope that made sense

Anonymous

#2 6d

Maybe it just flew over your head cause you’re so fucking sensitive

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Anonymous

#10 6d

Oh yeah, 100% I understand that…

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Anonymous

#1 6d

Hey, so that’s quite literally not the same thing idiot

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Anonymous

#13 6d

Tf is your problem

Anonymous

#14 6d

Nothing I think you guys just let this fly over your head. I am in no way shape or form. I’m trying to be transphobic.. We just have to start being realistic in the situation sometimes.

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Anonymous

#13 6d

If you say so, dick!

Anonymous

#13 6d

Doesn’t matter if your “not trying to be transphobic”. You are. Being realistic is not the same as being rude.