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Actual advice only: gay guys who are getting hit on by their friend’s closeted partner— WHAT DO YOU DO?

Anonymous 1w

literally tell them if your friend isnt homophobic and you think their partner would be safe and they wouldnt out them then tell them.,, they deserve to know their partner is unfaithful

Anonymous 1w

they get one serious warning to knock it off or i’ll tell their partner, if they do it again then i’ll go straight to my friend and let them know. just be aware some women flip out, don’t believe it, blame you, etc. if they do that we probably weren’t a good fit to be friends anyway, but sometimes it’s caught me by surprise.

Anonymous 1w

😭

Anonymous 1w

tell your friend what has been said/done

Anonymous

#2 1w

I thought about doing this, but the thing is that he plays it off as a joke in front of her and others, so like she’s in on the “joke” but it’s getting to a point where it doesn’t feel like a joke in private. At all.

Anonymous

OP 1w

if hes doing it in private id definitely have a serious conversation with her,,, maybe shell be in denial but itll at least make you feel better and like youre not hiding something from her... i think the tone that its being delivered in matters too,,, she only ever hears it in a joking tone, but when youre being serious, she'll probably realize and take you seriously

Anonymous

#2 1w

just saying, you can’t assume bc someone is liberal/not homophobic to you that they won’t freak out if they find out their partner is queer. a lot of people have a “that’s fine for /other/ people, but if it was my partner/kid/parent it would absolutely not be cool” mentality.

Anonymous

#3 1w

i understand that but it does fully depend on who she is as a person and op should try to broach that conversation with her somehow