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Why do straight cis men only talk about male survivors in juxtaposition to female or queer or trans survivors of assault? They only talk about them when it comes those conversations
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Anonymous 4w

they also get wildly uncomfortable if it’s brought up as its own topic by someone else. The problem only exists when it’s convenient for them

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Anonymous 4w

Because they don’t actually care about guys who’ve been through it, just in putting down everyone else.

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Anonymous 4w

Hell it’s even really bad among cis queer men. Something I have noticed is that some cis queer men have this thought process where it isn’t assault bc they are queer

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Anonymous 4w

they don’t actually care about male survivors either. they just want to downplay and minimize the issue bc they don’t wanna be as the problem.

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Anonymous 4w

Because they don’t want to be seen as the villains

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Anonymous 4w

Bc they don’t actually care about any survivors

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

Like my rapist went around telling people that he was expanding my experience of queerness (I’m a lesbian and he raped me) and I had so many cis queer men tell me that I was the problem bc I wasn’t being sexually open

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

omg i'm so sorry that's genuinely horrible

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

I am definitely more hesitant around all cis men now it doesn’t matter if they are queer or not

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

yeah i totally get that, it's just really disturbing what's going on in their head and also it's definitely not your fault btw, those men are just really disgusting

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