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Why do yall feel the need to come into spaces with trans people and go “erm I respect you but I just HATE your genitals and would NEVER have sex with you!! Just letting you know!!”
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Anonymous 3w

This is the thing. I don’t care if you don’t want to fuck me, that’s fine, that’s your business. But why are you entering a space for the community and loudly announcing you wouldn’t fuck us? What does that accomplish other than making people feel bad?

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Anonymous 3w

yeah like that's so weirddd😭😭

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Anonymous 3w

Maybe i’m dumb but i feel like that’s not what they were saying 💔 idk. These kinds of debates come up all the time and i see people get called horrible things for having preferences i guess it makes sense to want to defend yourself. I don’t care if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me as a trans person, it’s always the cis saviors calling people names for having genital preference

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Anonymous 3w

How should people with genital preference go about it irl? I agree this post is wrong. I just have been told that I’m transphobic bc I vomit every time I see a penis (bc i was raped) and I’m working on it in therapy. I have been told that saying I have trauma is not a good enough answer. Is there a way to express genital preference without being called transphobic?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Literally!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

It’s fine to have a genital preference, no one in the comments has faulted them for that. It’s more the idea of why they felt the need to loudly announce, out of nowhere, that they wouldn’t fuck pre-op trans women. They can like who they like, but there’s no reason to shout from the rooftops that you find a group unattractive because of a factor they can’t control.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

This is an impact over intention thing. I agree don’t think they meant harm but coming into a community space and announcing with no prompting that trans people’s genetalia isn’t attractive to you is just not respectful of the trans people you share that space with.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I just see no reason to randomly announce it

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

It depends. The only reason it should come up is if someone with a penis is actively perusing you. In that case, you can tell them you’re not interested in them. If they ask why you can just say you’re incompatible. The issue with what op said is that literally no one asked what op thinks about trans women and the possible genitals they may have

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Okay thank you! I normally only bring it up when I’m talking to a new person and don’t know their genitalia. So it isn’t transphobic bc the last woman I was talking to was actually a trans woman who didn’t tell me, but I informed her of my trauma and how my trauma manifests. And we got into a sexual situation where I ended up throwing up on her and she screamed at me and called transphobic and I lowkey feel like a horrible person so just wasn’t sure if there was a better way to go about it

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

If you told her “I will throw up on you if you are not post op” she shouldn’t have been surprised

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

I think it’s guilt and them feeling the need to explain themselves. But I agree with you. It’s disrespectful and out of place

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