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LGBTQIA+ 22h
No means no. It doesn’t mean let me try to convince you that you are only saying no bc of purity culture. It means no and that should be end of discussion. If you try to convince someone into sexual acts after they said no, you’re a bad person
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Anonymous 20h

not even just a bad person, that’s straight up sexual assault

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Anonymous 20h

It’s a lot more fun when both people actually want to do it anyway. Idk why anyone would want to do it with someone that’s even gonna like it or be into it or be passionate back.

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Anonymous 20h

I remember saying no, and he decided to pout about it and I gave in, but I just remember laying there and not being in my body. I thought that if I would give him what he wanted, he would be happy which would make me happy, but I wasn’t.

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Anonymous 18h

a coerced yes is still a no btw

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Anonymous 18h

If someone doesn’t want tea don’t force them to drink tea

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Anonymous 18h

Thank you!!! I had someone try coercing me and others into acts that we were incredibly uncomfortable with. They claimed we were “lame” “purity culture” and that it was a “suppressed homophobia”… I blocked them so fast and it turns out they indeed SAd my friends

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Anonymous 19h

been there, and that shit hurt :/

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Anonymous 14h

Yeah, my last relationship was basically based upon it, almost every time we had sex it was coercion. People that do that are rapists. I would lay there and cry, disassociate, whatever, and they never blinked twice.

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Anonymous 15h

Or if you ask again right after.

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Anonymous replying to -> bluecoconuts 19h

That’s how I was with my first time like ever and yeahhhhh it’s not fun

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

This is true, I just didn’t want to use any words that could result in my post being taken down

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 18h

I have noticed that some ppl like that you aren’t into it and get off on that fact. It’s really disturbing

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Anonymous replying to -> bluecoconuts 18h

I’m so sorry, I have also been through a similar experience and I have spent a lot of time in therapy working through it. The conclusion that I have come to is that saying no should be enough, and if you push back on someone’s no, you are not a safe person to be around. It just sucks that no is not as respected as it should be

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 18h

Literally like you should just be able to say no to sex. Like I hate when they frame it as purity culture bc most of the times I say no it’s bc I can tell that having sex would cause a panic attack due to my ptsd. I just like hate how it isn’t uncommon for lgbtq+ ppl to have this experience especially with other lgbtq+ ppl

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 13h

I’m so sorry that you experienced that

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