LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | Is it being demisexual if you have sexual attraction to strangers but you don’t want to have sex until an emotional connection has been formed bc of past trauma?

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LGBTQIA+ 1d

Is it being demisexual if you have sexual attraction to strangers but you don’t want to have sex until an emotional connection has been formed bc of past trauma?

Anonymous 1d

Like when I have sex without the emotional connection I have noticed that most ppl won’t take the time to have proper aftercare with me. I am a r@pe survivor, I do need more emotional support after sex because if I don’t get my needed emotional support after sex I have flashbacks and panic attacks

Anonymous 23h

I mean, I wouldn’t, but you can identify however you want

Anonymous

OP 1d

i don’t think that’s what most people mean when they say demisexual, but i also think it makes sense to identify that way given your situation!

Anonymous

#1 1d

I am just confused bc someone told me I was lying about my identity. I was told that i should identify as a demisexual lesbian since I’m not open to hookups

Anonymous

OP 14h

that person doesn’t understand the word or doesn’t understand attraction then, attraction isn’t the same thing as actually wanting to have sex. It doesn’t sound to me like you’re demi, you just have (entirely reasonable) criteria for when you’re comfortable having sex.