Anonymous #3 17h

what’s confusing

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Anonymous #3 17h

using context clues from the post and the comments op keeps referring to it as “your sexuality.” and bi people typically are not the one policing bisexuality as gay or straight, another context clue…

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Anonymous #3 17h

and either way it’s condescending as fuck, bi or not bi!!

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Anonymous OP 16h

I’m looking at the comments and it appears that they are bi themselves.. and it’s also implied they are also in a straight passing relationship themselves. Like the post alone is condescending I get it, but if they’re also calling themselves out then I don’t see how it’s an issue if they are including themselves

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Anonymous OP 16h

but then again, that’s just my two cents… so I’m not going to start or continue shit

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Anonymous #3 16h

That’s kind of exactly what you’re doing…

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Anonymous #3 16h

ah you’re right, i only read their replies on the couple top comments. mostly the complaint is resurfacing the “you’re basically straight” discourse during pride month and for literally no reason? the yikyak bi community has no moderator so it’s mostly just horny posts, so this post is condescending in the community for literally no reason. nobody was claiming that straight-passing privilege doesn’t exist, but also we tend not to entertain that discourse bc we’re not straight

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Anonymous #3 16h

like especially the last sentence is incredibly demeaning… im not even in a “straight-passing” relationship but i’m so tired of people debating whether im straight or gay in my own fucking community, i am bisexual and that’s it.

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Anonymous OP 16h

I get you… I mean I don’t think it was a productive post, and I don’t think anyone was trying to say that straight passing privilege doesn’t exist- I think that the post was unnecessary, but I also think that people’s reactions to it gotta just chill and move on- like my advice on here is to not let shit get to you yaknow

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Anonymous OP 16h

No babe I love that for you- happy pride month to yall

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Anonymous #4 16h

bro I’m literally not can you please please please just chill the fuck out and stop already goddamn

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Anonymous #3 16h

you can ‘chill and move on’ because it doesn’t affect you, but this is a continuous bigotry constantly parroted at bi people not just from homophobes but honestly more often from other queer people. so no, im not just going to “move on” when i see a condescending post getting more upvotes within my own community. sorry not sorry

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they can be “straight passing” relationships but they’re not straight relationships. the terminology distinction is important to make.

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nice strawman pal

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and to be clear, i am trans. the instance you’re describing is transphobia. whether or not that relationship is described as queer as nothing to do with the act of transphobia. the cis het man obviously isn’t queer, but we HAVE to have more fucking nuance than “is this relationship straight or gay.”

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Anonymous OP 16h

ok be honest, are you the original creator or something? because based on the other posts over here and on the bi forum, it’s kinda similar writing if you ask me

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Anonymous #3 16h

? no?? literally im making the exact opposite point, i made one similar post in the bi forum but i barely ever post LOLL

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i can see where you’re coming from with that. i think we lose the fluidity and nuance and normality of what queerness is if we’re always taking a measuring tape and filing people into what we view as “queer” or “not queer” though. i appreciate your experience, but from my own experience i find that inviting people into explore queer spaces often can lead to more acceptance and understanding, and often finding themselves. im not saying a cis het person is queer for dating a cis bi person, but-

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Anonymous OP 16h

i mean it kinda seems like you fabricated a situation to talk about something but I’ll let you get back to it 🤣🤣🤣

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-simply labeling that relationship as “straight” completely shuns that queer person from their community. there is privilege in a straight-passing relationship, but we cannot alienate our fellow queer people just because we’ve set an arbitrary boundary on queerness. there is nuance that we cannot ignore

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Anonymous #3 16h

literally what are u even talking about

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Anonymous OP 16h

genuinely critical thinking is at an all time low

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