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I’m a cisgendered heterosexual man, but I want to let you all know I really enjoy the musical stylings of your Chappell Roan, but I’m scared to tell anyone. Not that I’d be embarrassed, it just comes across incredibly performative. Thank you, goodbye.
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Anonymous 2d

This is what I hate about the “performative man” trend like let straight men be whimsical damn 💔

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Anonymous 2d

Why are you scared? You’re only alive once so fuck that. Don’t hide what you enjoy!

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Anonymous 2d

As a man who is also afraid of coming across performative for liking things that i like, i feel you

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Anonymous 2d

Be as loud about how much you love her as you want. You’ll make friends! The only people who would call you “performative” spend their entire lives on Tumblr

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Anonymous 2d

Girl fuck other peoples opinions. You do what makes you happy.

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Anonymous 2d

Grown man afraid to listen to a pop star…

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

really displays the state of the world

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

I’m not afraid to like her, I’m afraid of looking performative

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Do it anyway… people probably don't care as much as you think

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Anonymous replying to -> tomatogames 2d

Same😭 I liked the trend for a very short time at the beginning because it was making fun of predatory men. Then it very quickly veered off into intense homophobia and enforcement of gender roles. I started finding my gay ass in a park reading a book, homemade matcha latte in hand, and second guessing myself wondering if I was performing for anyone. Nah, those are just things I genuinely like to do. Also I’m not into women so I’d like to see anyone argue I’m trying to have sex.

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Anonymous replying to -> tomatogames 2d

Seriously we call for men to break gender norms then when they do it’s labeled as performative to get women. And this might be controversial but so what… if they are happy and aren’t actively hurting people let it go. There is so much more to get upset over that’s actually worth our time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 2d

Yes omg exactly! Women have been saying for years that men need to be more in touch with their feminine side and it’s okay to be vulnerable and say what you like, and then this trend that went on for like a whole year came along to beat and shame them back into masculinity. It was so homophobic and gender normative, it was really sad.

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Anonymous replying to -> tomatogames 2d

Fr. 🥀

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