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LGBTQIA+ 2w
genuine question, don’t call me stupid. if i’m bi and i give up on dating men, does that make me a lesbian even though im still attracted to men? idk how ts works but my friend called me stupid when i asked her this and figured i’d ask😭😭
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Anonymous 2w

up to you 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous 2w

i’d say if the sexual attraction is still there then you’re still bisexual however it’s up to you to identify any way you want

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Anonymous 2w

i'm like a kinsey 5 at best and just call myself gay or queer. technically i guess i could say "bi", but it feels dishonest when im not really attracted to women ever

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Anonymous 2w

If you were to ask me to define you, yes still bi. All it takes is finding two or more genders attractive. Ofc, you’re free to label yourself however: bi, gay, homoflexible, sapphic, wlw World is your oyster sis

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

some people will say if you have any attraction to men at all then you’re bi, but there are other opinions out there. if you plan to only date woman, marry a woman, and be part of the lesbian community, then sure why not you’re a lesbian. what’s important is that you have a label and community that feels right to you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

thank you. i asked my friend about this and she said that i wouldn’t count as a lesbian because im still attracted to men and even if i only date women, id be a “fake lesbian”. i just thought it’d be weird to call myself bi if i never date/plan to date men but also felt weird calling myself a lesbian because i’m attracted to men

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

it’s up to you and honestly it’s the kind of thing you’ll figure out for yourself once you’ve spent some time dating exclusively woman/in lesbian spaces, whether you feel bi or lesbian best represents your experience and how you relate to others. my wife is probably “technically” bi, but she tells everyone she’s a lesbian lol. we’ve been together for a decade and spend time mostly with other lesbians. her being occasionally attracted to men just isn’t that relevant to how she lives her life.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

also your friend kinda sounds like she sucks

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Agree with #1 and also want to point out that not dating multiple genders doesn’t mean you aren’t bi, there are lots of reasons why someone would only have a dating history with one gender (ex. figuring out you’re bi after entering a committed relationship). Imposter syndrome is suuuuuper common, especially among young bi people. Whichever label you choose is up to you, but don’t feel like you can’t be bi just because you only plan to date women.

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