Anonymous #2 4w

girl why u hating on ur own team

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Anonymous #2 4w

"I'm one of the good ones" headass. Sorry to inform you but you're not exempt from being hated by people who are biphobic just because you are also biphobic

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yeah the biphobia sucks and I hate it exists but I see why people have this mindset. Some people suck and ruin an image for everyone. I don’t think I’m “exempt” from biphobia and don’t think I’m “one of the good ones” I just don’t hang out with a lot of other bi women cause they are often chronically online or act like I’m a fetish because they aren’t actually bi. I’ve run into a lot of bi women who try and flirt with me only to then try and get me to go home with her and her man for a threesome

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Anonymous #2 4w

You are biphobic lol replace bi women with an ethnicity or religion or something and maybe the problem with this whole paragraph will be more obvious. And being biphobic because of an experience with someone who's not even bi is so dumb

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Anonymous #3 4w

Because as much as I hate the biphobia it’s true. I hate that I’m judged and ignored by some lesbians but I honestly can’t blame them for coming to that conclusion. I’ve met so many awful bi women to the point I have to remind my self that not everyone acts like that

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Anonymous OP 4w

Are you illiterate?

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Anonymous #2 4w

Jesus Christ you're so annoying. I hope you find the validation you're seeking and I hope sooner than later you realize you're never actually gonna get it.

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Anonymous #2 4w

"I've met so many awful Black women to the point I have to remind myself not everyone acts like that" Tell me, does that sound racist, yes or no?

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Anonymous #5 4w

I think you're also a loser

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Anonymous OP 4w

Oh no 😔🤣 biphobia isn’t real

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Anonymous #5 4w

Go fuck yourself.

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Anonymous #7 4w

You're not justified in spewing any type of -phobia or -ism just because your experience is different than that of someone else. That's literally what the phobias and isms are based on. It's not valid to be biphobic just because you don't have the same experience, that feels like basic common sense.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Bi crybaby’s whine about this all the time. It’s not biphobic to not want to date bi people because they haven’t decentered men. It’s a preference

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Anonymous OP 4w

yeah its crazy how changing the entire point of the sentence changes the sentence. like im also bi but you have to be fr a lot of the women who will tell you they’re bi don’t actually like women, they just like to flirt with them

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Anonymous #7 4w

So 2 things. 1.) this post doesn't say anything about dating bi people. 2.) it is biphobic to say all bi women haven't decentered men, and if you don't believe that all bi women haven't decentered men, then that's not the reason you don't date them, you just don't date them because they're bi

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Anonymous #5 4w

You’re literally proving it is with your comment by stereotyping us

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Anonymous #9 4w

The entire point doesn't change though, they're both minority groups and part of marginalized communities. If you refuse to see that what you said is biphobic in the same way that what I said is racist, that's on you

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Anonymous #7 4w

Saw a great post over on LSA the other day from a girlie saying sum like “why are WE still centering men by ostracizing bi women for being attracted to them?” and lowk that’s what ur giving #7 💀

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I am Black. Yes race and sexuality are different. However the concept of discrimination against bisexuals being called biphobia is the same as the concept of discrimination against Black people being called racism. You're being discriminatory and stereotyping on the basis of a persons sexuality being bisexual. That is biphobia. The same relay being discriminatory and stereotyping on the basis of a persons race being Black is anti-Black racism. It's not a hard concept

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Anonymous OP 4w

*the same way

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Anonymous OP 4w

i’m not discriminating against anyone lmao, im queer and will date anyone if i like them, im just saying that a lot of women lie about being bisexual, sue me.

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Anonymous #9 4w

Assuming people are lying about their sexuality just because the sexuality is bisexual is problematic. Having a problem with an entire demographic because of a problem you've seen in a select few is problematic.

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Anonymous OP 4w

That’s why most lesbians are “anti bi” you weirdos 😭😭😭

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Anonymous #7 4w

Did you even read what I just wrote?

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Anonymous OP 4w

bro NO ONE IS DOING THAT THO😭😭 like bffr, you live in NYC so maybe in ur 400sqr miles of the earth lesbians hate bi ppl but even i lived there for 3 months and ive never met a single lesbian that actually has a problem with bisexual women

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Anonymous OP 4w

like at most i’ve seen online lesbians talking about how they’ve been burned and are now suspicious, but like. it’s reasonable to be suspicious, that doesn’t mean u won’t date them it just means they wanna feel it out first

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Anonymous #9 4w

Lesbians have been burned by lesbians too and yet there's not blanket ban on dating lesbians because of it. Also the post isn't even specific to dating lol a lot of people just have a problem with bi people for some reason and it's weird!

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Anonymous OP 4w

omfg by burned i mean that they have been with women that weren’t actually attracted to women before, didn’t realize i had to spell that out. and again ill say that ive never met a real person who has a problem w bi ppl in any sense, just weird mfs on yikyak who r probs just rage baiting anyway.

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Anonymous #9 4w

I have met people who have a problem in real life lol hence the post. And you see the issue though that because you dated one or 2 people who turned out to maybe not be bi that you cast out all bisexuals is an interesting choice when if you dated 1 or 2 lesbians who dogged you out you probably wouldn't just cast out all lesbians lol like are you seeing my point? And then it's like were they even lying about being bu or did they just date a guy after so they assumed they lied about being bi?

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Anonymous OP 4w

i know what ur saying i just rlly don’t think that the few people you met in NYC represent lesbians at all and i think it’s weird to assume this is a lesbian specific trait and not just the fact that you know weird people. like most people will not meet a lesbian like this ever

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Anonymous #9 4w

I never said they represent all lesbians, I said "lesbians who are anti bi women" and that's the specific group I'm talking about. Not lesbians in general

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Anonymous #9 4w

Most of my friends are lesbians/queer, and they're all cool and normal. But they have friends that are weird losers and those are the ppl I'm talking about lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

yeah, again, you’re still saying this is a lesbian specific trait, i didn’t say you were generalizing all lesbians. by saying “lesbians who are anti bi women” you are implying that this trait is common in specifically lesbians. which is harmful both bc lesbians don’t need any extra shit being spewed about them and bc it’s not holding the ppl that feel this way that aren’t lesbians accountable

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Anonymous #9 4w

Me talking about straight people being biphobic doesn't really matter in a community where we're all gay and I've literally never encountered a gay man who had this much commentary on bi women. On bi men, yes. And they are also losers. But I'm talking about lesbians and bi women lol I don't need to bring up every issue in the world to talk about the issue I want to talk about

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Anonymous OP 4w

it’s so easy to say people, but you decided to gender the conversation to gear it towards a problem with lesbians for some reason

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Anonymous #9 4w

Also it's not spewing negative things to lesbians to say some lesbians are biphobic and those biphobia lesbians are weird for that. I'm confused on how it's problematic to say problematic people are problematic lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

it’s the fact that you made it about lesbians when this is not a lesbian issue, it’s a person issue. like you even acknowledged that this is an issue in other dynamics too, so i really just dont get why you brought lesbians into this if you just wanted to talk about biphobia

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Anonymous #9 4w

By your logic, you think lying about being bi is specific to bi women and have a specific problem with bi women. Your comment doesn't even make sense

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Anonymous #9 4w

Because I'm speaking about my experience...sorry that I'm not a bi/gay man and don't feel the need to post about whatever their experience is like what are you talking about

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Anonymous OP 4w

i talked abt bi women earlier bc that’s what u posted abt. now that the convo has transitioned, ill make it clear that i believe this issue is present in all genders

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Anonymous #2 4w

Tis a bit prejudiced I fear

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Anonymous OP 4w

you’ve clarified several times that you’re not talking about dating so not really sure what sexuality has to do with it in that aspect. like admit that you made it a lesbian specific trait or don’t bring gender dynamics into this

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Anonymous #9 4w

You're not clear what sexuality has to do with biphobia? I'm confused. And wdym don't bring gender dynamics into it lol the post is literally gendered! As you have noted! I'm a bi woman talking about my experience as a bi woman. I'm not a man so I don't need to talk about the experience of gay/bi/queer men when talking about my experience. I thought you didn't like when bi people centered men? Now it's a problem that I'm not thinking of men when speaking on my own experience?

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Anonymous OP 4w

GIRL OMFG. you said earlier that this is not a conversation about dating. you later said that biphobia is present in other people too. why exactly did you make this post about lesbians if this is a non-romantic issue that you’ve seen in other sexualities as well? like what does the dynamic of lesbian-bi women have to do with anything if this isn’t a convo about dating??

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Anonymous OP 4w

also i never said shit abt centering men. it just seems to me that you’ve noticed this issue in all types of people but decided to focus on lesbians

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Anonymous #9 4w

I made the post about WOMEN. Lesbians and bi women are mentioned in the post. The post is about WOMEN because I am a WOMAN talking about my experience in spaces with other QUEER WOMEN. It's really irritating that you can't imagine a scenario in which who you choose to date doesn't matter to me lol it's not about that, it's about lesbians who hate bi women for some reason being assholes who continually invalidate bisexual women's identity

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Anonymous #9 4w

Like wdym??? Have you only seen lesbians and bi women interact in the context of dating? Do you pick and choose which sexuality you choose to be friends with too? Like what

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Anonymous OP 4w

yeah okay bro i’m done, i know exactly what the fuck you’re saying it’s just weird as hell that you’re upset about biphobia but for some reason made this post about lesbians. like i know who you date doesn’t matter that’s the whole point of what i’m saying, why did you make this post about lesbians when your problem is with biphobia towards bi women as a whole.

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Anonymous #9 4w

It's about biphobia toward bi women in queer spaces. Posted by a bi woman in a queer forum. Idk what's so hard to understand

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Anonymous #9 4w

Like I'm genuinely confused on what you're confused on, do you think gay and bi men are just sitting around having debates on how bi women lie and aren't actually queer? Like I didn't say people in general because I'm talking about queer spaces and the people perpetuating biphobia against bi women in those spaces lol it's not my fault that it's a problem between girls

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Anonymous OP 4w

notice how this comment says nothing about lesbians. like you keep flip flopping about whether or not this has to do with dating, if this doesn’t have anything to do with dating then yeah i do think gay men can be biphobic towards bi women and they probably do talk shit abt who they think is a “real gay”. if this is specifically about dating and lesbians not believing any women are bi then you should say that you’re talking about relationship dynamics instead of denying it repeatedly

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Anonymous #9 4w

Why do you keep talking about dating. It's my experience! Don't care what you think can happen lol gay men have not been biphobic toward me meanwhile there's 20 biphobic lesbians in this comment like be serious

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Anonymous #9 4w

There's never been a lesbian I wanted to date who I didn't date. This isn't about dating, it's about prejudice and a weird superiority complex

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Anonymous OP 4w

yeah bro bc u made a post about lesbians and not gay men like what. and lol talk abt prejudice u fr think lesbians r the only ones who are biphobic towards bi women

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Anonymous #9 4w

Why would it be about gay men if I just said I haven't experienced biphobia from gay men

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Anonymous #9 4w

I don't think lesbians are the only ones biphobic toward bi women, I know in my experience in queer spaces the people who have been biphobic toward me are lesbians. I never said all lesbians or only lesbians are biphobic, idk why you keep saying that lol it's tired

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Anonymous #13 4w

This post isn't about dating or attraction. What do you mean keep the same energy

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Anonymous #2 4w

there's bad people in every demographic, you can't just say that bc you've met a few bi girls who also happened to think it's a trend doesn't mean they all do and that you should treat them like that 😭

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Anonymous blue_honey 4w

And all the upvotes on it too…

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Anonymous OP 4w

She knew she couldn’t argue against your points so she switched to insults 💀

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Anonymous #7 4w

??? how do bi women cater to the patriarchy? By dating men? That they're attracted to????

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Anonymous #10 4w

Beautifully put

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Anonymous #7 4w

so with your logic, straight women cater to the patriarchy? lol do you think bi women should be more attracted to women to be valid?

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