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Genuinely wondering. How do trans man call themselves lesbians? I’m a trans man but I’ve always been a little confused because isn’t a lesbian a woman loving a woman? If you identify as a man wouldn’t that not fit the identity? No judgment
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Anonymous 2w

I see my gender + sexuality as somewhat of a axis chart. Gimme a sec to make it. But like my sexuality is lesbian because that’s what I’ve always been and the community I’m comfortable with, me being a trans man dosent change that for me. I’m also not fully binary, but choose to call myself a trans man because in society I’d rather be a man and I don’t believe currently I can be seen to the cishet public as anything but a man or woman

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Anonymous 2w

It would feel wrong to call myself straight because I feel like 1. Straight women would not date me, and 2, if a straight woman dated me there’s no way in hell she’d truly understand me. I feel the most seen when I’m seen as a lesbian. I’m mostly interested in being partners with other butch transmasc lesbians

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Anonymous 2w

i think its also a bit more about the experience itself. i personally dont identify as a lesbian cus im pan, but label my (nb) relation with my gf as sapphic, lesbian, and wlw because we experience it like that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

That’s interesting! So you call yourself a lesbian because you believe straight woman would never date you/see you as a trans man? But then you said you’d only date other transmasc men? Would that not make you just a gay trans man? (Genuine apologies if any of that is offensive I’m truly trying to understand this)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I wouldn’t date just men, like nonbinary transmascs to, and nonbinary people, but specifically other lesbians. I consider myself a butch lesbian who’s also a guy, so my preference is other butches who are trans. So just any trans people I guess idk. It’s honestly less about dating and more about lesbian community, I just feel connected to the community

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