
A lot of trans women don't even want to be with cis women because they have formed extremely insular communities where they are paranoid about anyone outside of their group. Well, that is mostly just the ones who are miserable online, which is hardly a representative slice of any community.
A lesbian shouldn’t be pressured into dating or having sex with someone to demonstrate that she isn’t transphobic. Consent means you’re allowed to say no without having to justify your attraction. At the same time, people should be respectful about how they communicate that rejection and avoid degrading or generalizing about trans women.