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evilboyprincess

 can someone explain how it’s bad for a nonlesbian to use the term pillow princess? i’ve sometimes referred to myself as this, but i don’t want to be disrespectful in any way. honestly just looking to learn and understand.
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never post in the regular sex advice thread because you will be getting straight men telling you it’s a nonissue for telling nonlesbians they cant say pillow princess 🫩
213 upvotes, 5 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "never post in the regular sex advice thread because you will be getting straight men telling you it’s a nonissue for telling nonlesbians they cant say pillow princess 🫩"
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Anonymous 1w

As a lesbian who had to explain this to her straight friend my best explanation to this is that sesbian lex is inherently very different than like say gex or cis intimacy because of the fact that for example in straight intimacy when a woman doesn’t do anything the guy still gains pleasure in someway even if it’s just through p*n*tr*tion (same with say gex). However in sesbian lex when a pillow princess is the sole recipient their partner doesn’t exactly gain much of a physical benefit if …

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

That makes sense. So a pillow princess lesbian literally can’t be with anyone but a stone cold top. Because the stone cold top wants to be the sole giver and not a recipient

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

So because this dynamic is so exclusive and specific to lesbian intimacy using it in any other context is just incorrect. It’s not so much that it’s disrespectful rather than the fact using it in any other context is simply just not applicable

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I hope that makes sense

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

that actually makes perfect sense thank you very much for taking the time to explain and to help me understand

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Anonymous replying to -> evilboyprincess 1w

Yesss of courseeee just glad I was able to get the point across

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I’m not a stone top but I’m a switch and I would be with a pillow princess, that wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me (just saying that pillow princess can be with someone who isn’t a stone top in all relationships). They definitely mostly pair with stone tops

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Yeah this is true. It depends on the switch. Cause I know a lot of switches who have been in relationships with pillow princesses and pillow princess with switches and it honestly didn’t end well for them because one of the partners was a pillow princess. But yeah the typical pairing is with a stone top

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