I made it so so clear in the beginning and now he’s talking about how hurt he is that I didn’t let him know the details of the other day bc it seemed like I was hiding it but in the past when I’ve told him in the sake of openness he’s gotten uncomfortable too. Idk what the right thing to do here is. I don’t want to lose either of them. Is it really as simple as- it’s not my fault and I don’t have to change who I am?

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Legit just dump him. He thought he was gonna be special and he was gonna be the one to make you realize you are in fact monogamous and you only want to be in a relationship with him. That didn’t happen, he’s realizing it likely isn’t going to happen, so now it’s your fault for not following his plan. As a monogamous person, I can pretty confidently say that monogamous people don’t enter poly relationships unless they expect it to eventually become monogamous (aka they wanna feel like they “won”)

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so he knew it was an undesirable situation for him but still went with it?

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dump him lmao

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If you’re monoämorous you legit shouldn’t date poly people, the only people I know who do that are incredibly desperate

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