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LGBTQIA+ 19h
Can anyone relate or know why this happened: in hs I identified as ftm, I lowkey thought I could be nb but I felt super dysphoric about everything feminine and only wanted to be seen as a guy. In college I came out as nb and I’m fine with being perceived-
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Anonymous 19h

Both masc and fem now, like if someone calls me pretty I don’t flip and I’m fine w wearing bras and dressing fem (when I’m not being objectified by men). How is it that I could go from feeling super dysphoric about all this stuff to not really caring anymore? Is this what being genderfluid is like or am I just detrans I don’t know why I went through such a drastic change over the span of like 4 years

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Anonymous 18h

Idk I think it’s normal for these things to change over several years. I’ve been ftm for 7 years and gone from horribly dysphoric to very gnc and less dysphoric to now somewhat gnc and more dysphoric. Still felt like a man the entire time tho

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

I feel like I’d be fine living as a woman now if I had to but I still feel dysphoric about it, I can’t tell if it’s genuine or if I just hate being objectified like how women are

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Either way I’d still prefer neutral name and pronouns ngl

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

I do think that while I identified as ftm I was suppressing my nb identity tbh, even when I was ftm I would always tell people I didn’t want to be perceived as a “man” like it just didn’t sound right and idk how I didn’t realize that was a nb thing. But I was still extremely dysphoric, and nowadays things that would normally upset me almost to tears just don’t bother me? It’s all just so confusing to me, I know there’s no right answer for a personal identity but still, just odd to me how things-

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

-changed so much over just a few years or so

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

I think that’s just like…growing pains. A lot of AFAB people experience dysphoria not from actually being ftm, but from just not feeling right in a body that’s rapidly changing. People go through phases of self expression all the time, and it’s not always connected to gender identity.

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