
On some level I do understand you so maybe my experience can help you. I’m AFAB identifying as a woman and gender queer. I identify with being a woman and I identify as being a gender non conforming person. Both aspects of my life are equal. I use she/they but most ppl use she (idc). I express myself visually however I want whenever I want, wearing femme masc or andro. Clothes are like gender to me and my label is inherently fluid to match!