I had to reach a compromise with some of my older family members. I’m not excusing their behavior or views in any way, but you do have to recognize they grew in a very different social climate to us. They were likely never exposed to many queer people/culture. Sometimes you just gotta give up on getting them to understand, but they sure as hell need to know when to shut their mouth. My rule I gave my older family members is the classic “if you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all”

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