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LGBTQIA+ 4w
Weird question, but can someone tell me what sexual attraction feels like? I’ve really been questioning if I actually am asexual, lately (largely due to OCD).
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Anonymous 4w

Sorry that this is a little crude but the simplest and most common sensation of sexual attraction is wanting to have sex with someone or getting aroused from thinking about doing sexual things with them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Ok, I definitely haven’t felt that since I stopped going on dates and having sex. Right now I really just can’t tell if everything that happened in the past was because I forced allosexual expectations on myself and gaslit myself into thinking that was what I wanted or if I actually was sexually attracted to any of the people I went on dates with.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

And every time I go through it in my head I come up with a different answer. I just know that I never actually felt any form of fireworks or butterflies or jitteriness or anything from kissing or sex.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Obviously it's your brain and not mine, but having gone through something similar, don't be so hard on yourself. Saying you gaslit yourself sounds really harsh and probably doesn't help with the sort of guilt and confusion I imagine you're feeling about this. You're just one person and it can be hard to tell what you want and what's right for you. Easier said than done, I know, but try to extend yourself a little grace.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

So I have never had sexual attraction then lol

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