I understand trans people using it but from cis people it can be pretty icky. Trans men can absolutely be different from cis men, we’re far less likely to be misogynistic, but you can still find very wonderful cis men out there. Making the distinction definitely makes me a little wary. Would probably never date a cis person who says that as a trans man

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Real !!! Like maybe I don’t want to be outed maybe I like being stealth without having to Prove I belong in queer spaces (as a gay man)

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I had a gay man say “you may not be a lesbian but a ABCM!” Like uhmmm no, thats invalidating for me and so many othernpeople included

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I usually see this in formerly lesbian spaces that want to include both trans women and transmasc butches

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